I firmly believe that when we stop pushing back against people who come at us with unwanted advice and criticism, their behavior simply loses its impact. Often, the offensive behavior -- no longer evoking a reaction -- begins to lessen.
I believe there are steps to getting off the rat wheel of parental stress, but we all have to join together and stop trying to out perform each other. Rest. Relax. Take a Deep Breath. The world is still spinning. The sun is probably going to come up tomorrow. And everything is going to be OK.
In choosing to confide in you, your son is risking his reputation. No teenager wants to be known as a snitch! His choice to confide in you reflects a belief that you'll respect him enough to listen without taking matters into your own hands.
In order to stop the bullying pandemic, we've got to focus on the victim AND the bully. Pain is a tough place to recover from, but with as many hands on deck as we can get, we can begin to chip away at this incredible intolerance invading our schools.
Modern parents are almost obsessed with filling up their children's time. There are after-school classes, team sports, camps, lessons. What's often missing from the schedule is valuable time spent alone.