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Parenting Gay Kids

Your Toddler Might Be Gay

Dana Sitar | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Sitar

If we keep talking to that little girl for the next 10 years as if it's her destiny to fall in love with a man, how will she react to herself and others if she finds herself attracted to the girls around her, not the boys? Or to both?

I Know My 9-Year-Old Son's 'Type': Pretty Boys With Dark Hair

Dave | Posted 08.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Dave

Here was my boy acting on his feelings, giving a gift to another boy he thought was attractive. But as much as I thought it was adorable, I also dread moments like these, because as the father of a gay child, the only thing that really worries me is other people's potential reactions to him.

Two Men Kissing in Front of My Kid? Awesome!

Amelia | Posted 07.26.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son needs to see kisses like this one, kisses of celebration between two men in love. There are too few of them in front of his eyes, and he needs to be able to see more. He needs to be able to see that his future will one day include kisses between him and a boy he likes, and one day a boy he loves.

When (Gay) Boy Meets (Gay) Girl for the First Time

Amelia | Posted 07.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Never once did our kids talk about their orientation. It was like they didn't need to discuss it. They both knew that the kid on the other side of the computer screen was gay, and that knowledge was enough.

Nobody Gets to Tell My Sons What It Means to Be a Man

Amelia | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

I think my husband is doing a great job of teaching them what it means to be a man. My sons learn from him that men are strong, smart, silly and creative. But what am I teaching our sons about what it means to be a woman? My sons learn from me that women are strong, smart, silly and creative.

Let's Talk About the Birds and... Um... the Birds?

Amelia | Posted 05.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My little boy will soon start becoming a little man, and as a gay-identified kid, what kind of sexual knowledge will he need? How will "the sex talk" be different for him? I don't have real answers to these questions, but I am trying to figure it out.

Stop Waiting for My Gay Son to Change

Amelia | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Part of me gets it. Kids go through phases when it comes to what they like. But the Darren Criss thing? That one hasn't gone anywhere. And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. But another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation.

Pundit Would Tell His Child That Being Gay Is 'A Road Of Destruction And Death' If They Came Out

Posted 11.13.2013 | Gay Voices

The American Family Association's Bryan Fischer followed in the footsteps of fellow conservative Pat Robertson in offering "advice" to the parents of ...

Boys and Girls and Their Prince Charmings

Amelia | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son's romantic feelings toward a gay male character raise eyebrows. People worry about it being too adult and wonder what my son could possibly know about sex. But these are never things we worry about when little girls want to be Cinderella and profess their love for Prince Charming.

While Your Child Is Still Alive: A Letter to Parents Who Aren't Ready to March in the Pride Parade

Linda Robertson | Posted 10.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

While your child is still alive, don't worry about what your friends will think. Twenty years from now, your friends' opinions won't keep you up at night. But your remorse about not loving your child while you still had the chance will. Trust me on this.

10 Ways to Support Your Gay Kid, Whether You Know You Have One or Not

Amelia | Posted 09.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Here are some helpful hints for supporting your gay child before they ever come out to you. After all, parenting gay kids does not start when they come out. They've been gay since day one, whether you knew it or not.

Our Gay Son's Wedding

Linda Robertson | Posted 08.27.2013 | Gay Voices
Linda Robertson

Wild horses couldn't keep me and Rob from going to Ryan's wedding. I know that many of our evangelical Christian friends probably don't understand this; you'll see it as an endorsement of sin, and as a compromise of the truth of scripture. But that isn't how God speaks to us about it.

The Life Lessons A Straight Father Taught His Gay Son

Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com At 19, I came out of the closet to my parents. It was a shock, but not a surprise. At the time, I wasn't quite r...

When My Son Met His 'Boyfriend,' Darren Criss (PHOTO)

Amelia | Posted 08.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

What could I say to this young man who meant so much to my kid, this young man who, by playing a television character, had helped lead my son to tell me about his orientation and, by extension, helped change the trajectory of my own life toward activism?

What I'd Say To A Parent With A Gay Child, From Jane Lynch (WATCH)

Posted 08.13.2013 | MarloThomas

Jane Lynch gave advice to parents with gay children when she joined me on Mondays With Marlo this week. It can be so difficult to come out to your fam...

Don't Be Your Child's First Bully

Amelia | Posted 07.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

By hiding photos of a son dressed up as Minnie Mouse or Scooby-Doo's Daphne, a parent is sending the message that she is ashamed of her child. That's a message that gets received, quickly and with dire consequences.

Accept And Tolerate My Gay Kid? That's Not Good Enough

Amelia | Posted 06.07.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

With politicians there is a lot talk of "acceptance" and "tolerance" when it comes to homosexuality. I accept the fact that I have to pay taxes. I tolerate the fact that I have to go to the dentist. Why should either of those words apply to how a parent feels about their child?

When My 8-Year-Old Gay Son Taught His Class About Harvey Milk

Amelia | Posted 05.05.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

On this day in a second-grade classroom in the Midwest, Harvey Milk was on the same stage as Frederick Douglass, Sojourner Truth and Elizabeth Cady Stanton as an 8-year-old gay boy who has never seen the need for a closet told Milk's story.

To Move Or Not To Move?

Amelia | Posted 04.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

As our children grow, we look around and wonder, "Is this the right place for us to be? Is this where we want our children to grow up? What is the environment we've chosen teaching them?" These questions were heightened after our oldest son started identifying as gay at a young age.

If My Gay Son Realizes He's Really My Straight Son, So What?

Amelia | Posted 04.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If our son realizes at a later date that he isn't gay, I won't be embarrassed. No matter who he is, we want him to know that we love him. And whom he loves and is attracted to doesn't change a thing. If anything, we are setting an example to all our kids that our love really is unconditional.

A New Coming-Out Story

Amelia | Posted 03.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My son never lived in the proverbial closet. He's never thought of himself any other way or pretended that he did. So what do I think he was coming out of? His narrative is so different from the ones that came before that I don't even have the terminology to talk about it appropriately.

Raising A Gay Son Is The Same As Raising A Straight Son, Except When It's Not

Amelia | Posted 03.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Yes, at times it is different. At times it is hard, emotional and challenging. It's not something people are used to seeing, which can make them uncomfortable, so it requires extra work of me as a parent. But that doesn't mean it's bad. And he's worth it. All my kids are.

Some Parents Might Not Want A Gay Kid, But I Do

Amelia | Posted 02.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

On Dec. 10 a conservative politician in the UK commented, "I think most parents would prefer their children not to be gay." As the mom of an openly gay son, that comment pisses me off, but it doesn't surprise me. It's something I have heard many times before.

When Your Favorite Childhood Films Are A Little More Homophobic Than You Remembered

Amelia | Posted 02.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

As a parent, one of the great joys is exposing my kids to all the stuff I liked when I was little. We have a built-in excuse to buy things like The Goonies or The NeverEnding Story. But a few times that we've gone back to our childhood favorites, we've had a harsh wake-up call.

Being Thankful And Honoring Those Who Made Today Possible

Amelia | Posted 01.21.2013 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Hundreds and thousands of people have fought for equal rights, and I am thankful to them all. Their hard work, sacrifice and struggle brought us here, to a place where my little boy can know who he is and tell me without shame -- and be unaware that shame could even be a factor.