Open your own heart and understand that children benefit when they participate in a family event that includes both celebration and pain. Together you can face the sorrow, share the tears, and always, always, hold the love in your hearts.
As parents, our responsibility is to keep kids unharmed. That doesn't mean shielding them from all possibility of defeat. It means letting them fail safely. Here's how to help your child take risks -- and make mistakes, inevitably -- safely.
I tend to think the hallmark of good parenting is more about how well you teach your children to do for themselves. And I think what you teach them to do for themselves will largely determine their success and happiness in life.
If I decided to take a more introspective look at our "DIY Summer," I would have to admit that I can be an impediment to our children's self-sufficiency. It's hard for me to accept "their" way of doing things. After all, no one can make "hospital corners" like I can or load the dishwasher just so.
The point isn't to criticize children. But it's to recognize that self-esteem really, truly comes as the result of achievement -- in the classroom, on the field, at home -- rather than false accomplishments.
As an educator of teachers and counsellors, I never have to wait long to hear the next sentence that contains an expletive alongside the word "teenager." Having raised three of my own, I'm not unrealistic about the challenges that they can bring.
Having grown up as a rebellious girl myself, it's hard not to be nervous for my daughter, knowing that she'll have to navigate a world that is at turns opposed to her flourishing. But then she wows me again and I feel a wild sense of pride well up inside me.