I'm getting a lot of flack about friends lately. Kids are complaining they don't have any. Parents are concerned their children don't have enough, or have too many disagreements with the ones they do have.
Consider what today's parents face -- the corporate influence, billions of dollars of advertising, and a banking technology that has taught children that money doesn't grow on trees, it comes flying out of ATMs.
Every day, I find wisdom through others or through my own actions. I try to remember to pass this wisdom along to my children, hoping they will carry this information with them as they navigate through a very complex world.
The uproar greeting Amy Chua's allegedly tongue in cheek tales of demeaning and belittling behavior toward her daughters has drowned out an important theme: the parenting principles that Chua gets right.
I am a mother who does not have a strong conviction that there is one fixed, right way of raising children. Often times I second-guess my own choice in a situation, and wonder if I could have found a better way of parenting.
While rules and discipline certainly have a place in raising our kids, by also reading certain imaginative stories with them, we might actually inspire them to behave well at home and in school, and reach for their dreams whatever they may be.
Teenagers still need their parents as guides and advisers -- not friends. The more you define yourself as her parent and show her what is and isn't acceptable, the sooner things between you and your daughter will improve.