In many predictable ways having a second child has changed my mothering -- for example, increasing my forgetfulness while simultaneously decreasing my reservoir of patience. My second child has just reached his first birthday and with that celebratory occasion came a mountain of realizations for me about the differences between baby number one and baby number two.
Whatever we do that is truly loving to ourselves -- that is in the highest good of our soul's journey on the planet -- is also loving to others. It is never in our highest good to be mean to others, or to disregard other's feelings and needs. But it is in our highest good follow our higher guidance and do what really brings us joy and fulfillment.