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Parents of Gay Children

Liberal, Well-Meaning Mom Blows It When Her Son Comes Out -- But Then She Feels Blessed

Susan Oren | Posted 10.27.2014 | Gay Voices
Susan Oren

Here was the ultimate mom test. Was I the real deal? At this crucial moment, probably the most important one of my life, my mind had shut down, and I'd lost my voice. I'd expected to perform much better. This had been a D-minus at best.

The Second Halloween My Boy Wanted to Be a Girl

Julie Tarney | Posted 10.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

You'd think that by the time my son Harry turned 4 years old in 1994, I would have learned how to handle Halloween. A guilt ghoul swallowed me whole the first time my boy wanted to go trick-or-treating dressed as a girl. But, no, some lessons don't come easy.

Anti-Gay Bullying at School, but Not Like We Expected

Amelia | Posted 11.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

My oldest son is now in the fourth grade, and he's never had an incident of anti-gay bullying at school. And that may have lulled me into a false sense of security, because I was caught totally off guard when it happened to his little brother.

Parent Notes to LGBT Kids Go Viral | SPEAK UP WITH JIMMY NGUYEN (VIDEO)

Jimmy Nguyen | Posted 11.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Jimmy Nguyen

In this "Digitally Speaking" segment, I discuss the social media impact produced by these notes, and how they can help parents everywhere better handle the coming out moment for LGBT kids.

Not Ready to Love a Gay Child? Then Don't Have Kids

Amelia | Posted 11.06.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

If you are thinking about creating a family with someone, stop and think. Ask yourself, "Will this person love the children we create?" If the answer is "Maybe not," then perhaps it is time to take a big step back and do some real thinking.

Pat Robertson Suggests Teen Is Having Gay Crushes Because He's Being Raised By A Single Mom

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 08.26.2014 | Gay Voices

A lack of "male companions" could be causing a woman's teenage stepson to have crushes on other boys, at least according to Pat Robertson. The U.S...

LGBT Youths With Unsupportive Parents Sound Off Anonymously

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 07.27.2014 | Gay Voices

With marriage equality expanding internationally and more U.S. states approving anti-discrimination legislation, the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transg...

10 Awesome Tips For Parents Of Gay Kids

Posted 07.15.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com "Mom, Dad, I'm gay." Rarely are these words met with fanfare and rainbow flags flying, except in the rare instanc...

Drawing Boobs Drew Trouble for My 5-Year-Old Son

Julie Tarney | Posted 08.20.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

A few months earlier, in the summer of 1992, Harry had told me, "Inside my head I'm a girl." So I knew biological differences between boys and girls didn't make that much sense to him. It was what was in his head that mattered.

'Family' Group Representative Advises Mom To Pursue 'Ex-Gay' Group For Daughter Who Came Out

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 06.19.2014 | Gay Voices

No stranger to anti-gay declarations, the Family Research Council's Peter Sprigg advised a mother to pursue organizations which advocate for reparativ...

Your Toddler Might Be Gay

Dana Sitar | Posted 08.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Sitar

If we keep talking to that little girl for the next 10 years as if it's her destiny to fall in love with a man, how will she react to herself and others if she finds herself attracted to the girls around her, not the boys? Or to both?

I Know My 9-Year-Old Son's 'Type': Pretty Boys With Dark Hair

Dave | Posted 08.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Dave

Here was my boy acting on his feelings, giving a gift to another boy he thought was attractive. But as much as I thought it was adorable, I also dread moments like these, because as the father of a gay child, the only thing that really worries me is other people's potential reactions to him.

An Open Letter From A Grown-Up Gay Man To His Mother

Posted 05.18.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons For YourTango.com 
 Dear Moms of LGBT Children: It's almost your day. That one-day a year that we celebrate you and all that...

Pat Robertson Advises Woman Not To Accept Her Lesbian Niece; 'You Cannot Be An Enabler'

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 05.15.2014 | Gay Voices

Pat Robertson offered some eyebrow-raising advice to a Christian woman who said she was struggling over how to come to terms with her niece, who recen...

When (Gay) Boy Meets (Gay) Girl for the First Time

Amelia | Posted 07.12.2014 | Gay Voices
Amelia

Never once did our kids talk about their orientation. It was like they didn't need to discuss it. They both knew that the kid on the other side of the computer screen was gay, and that knowledge was enough.

Mothers and Sons, Literally

Ruthie Pincus | Posted 07.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Ruthie Pincus

Ours is a theater family. I have two sons currently studying theater in college, and as often as we can, we find our way to the theater. It was therefore no surprise that this mother would find herself in the audience of Terrence McNally's Mothers and Sons, sitting between her gay twin sons.

The Shopping Trip

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 06.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

Toothpaste. Shampoo. Cat litter. Storage containers. Paper towels. Laundry detergent. The most basic of items, but in reality, five of these were decoys. But it wasn't what I was buying that made this shopping trip seem so surreal. It was the why.

When My Maybe-Gay 8-Year-Old Son Stood Up for His 'Girls' Toy'

Julie Tarney | Posted 06.04.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

The sound of the doorbell was followed by echoing thumps of a basketball on the wooden floor of our front porch. I put my hand up as a visor against the glaring afternoon sun and recognized Louis, my 8-year-old son Harry's friend from across the street.

Mom Who Fatally Beat Son She Apparently Thought Was Gay Convicted Of Murder

Posted 04.03.2014 | Gay Voices

An Oregon woman has been convicted of fatally beating her young son in a homeless shelter just days before his 4th birthday. The Oregonian reports...

Mom Allegedly Killed 4-Year-Old Son Because She Thought He Was Gay

Posted 03.27.2014 | Gay Voices

An Oregon mother is facing murder charges after allegedly subjecting her 4-year-old son to deadly beatings because she thought he was gay. As the ...

My Son Was Six Years Old When I Introduced Him to Liberace, Elvis and Hendrix

Julie Tarney | Posted 04.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

I wanted him to know that the fashion door would open for him; that as boys got older they gained the freedom to wear whatever they wanted. I needed him to know there were men who had defied the notion of sameness and boredom with what they wore. Harry hung on every word.

'Hey, Mom, I'm Gay'

Dayna Steele | Posted 03.08.2014 | Gay Voices
Dayna Steele

"I'm gay," my 16-year-old son blurted out. Actually, he texted it following a teenage tantrum about something totally unrelated to sexual orientation.

My Son's First Drag Idol Was a Cross-dressing Rabbit

Julie Tarney | Posted 02.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

My heart swelled as I patted Harry's head. He was happy, and so was I. Because while too many people questioned my young son's preferences, and therefore my skills as a mother, we both stood strong with a cartoon rabbit who carried an anvil in his pink purse.

Silent Night, Homophobic Night...

Suzanne Brockmann | Posted 02.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Suzanne Brockmann

My mom and dad did something that few people ever do: They walked their talk. They cut ties with their longtime church because they realized that their gay grandson wasn't welcome there. And they set out to find a truly open and affirming church. I knew how hard this was for them.

Dedicated to the One I Love

Suzanne Brockmann | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Suzanne Brockmann

My son Jason was 18 years old, and we were a mess, both crying and laughing as we sat in my office. I'd just written the dedication to my soon-to-be-published book Hot Target, in which I introduced and capital-O-outed Jason to my hundreds of thousands of readers around the world.