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Parents of Transgender Children

The Day I Took a Knife to School, and How It Changed Me

Mary J. Moss | Posted 07.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

"I might as well be invisible," I thought. I was sitting in my wheelchair in the locker room while the other kids played a sport in gym class. I could hear them and wondered how long it would take for anyone to find me. I felt so alone. I thought I was a burden to my family, and I felt hopeless.

Drawing Boobs Drew Trouble for My 5-Year-Old Son

Julie Tarney | Posted 06.24.2014 | Gay Voices
Julie Tarney

A few months earlier, in the summer of 1992, Harry had told me, "Inside my head I'm a girl." So I knew biological differences between boys and girls didn't make that much sense to him. It was what was in his head that mattered.

Dispelling Myths, Misconceptions and Lies About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 06.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

Recently, a video about a transgender child in California went viral. Sadly, like every other conversation about transgender children, the comments section was often unkind. Scanning the comments, I saw the same poorly thought-out ideas keep popping up. I think it's time to put these misconceptions to bed.

Grieving a Child Who Is Still Alive

Mary J. Moss | Posted 06.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

My daughter Grace passed away in September 2010. There wasn't an obituary. There wasn't a funeral. There wasn't a casket or even a body to put in it. No one sent me sympathy cards. No one brought me casseroles. This wasn't because no one cared yet. It was because my child was still alive.

Allies and Angels

Jorge R. Petit, MD | Posted 07.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Jorge R. Petit, MD

In their book Allies and Angels: A Memoir of Our Family's Transition, Terri and Vince Cook lay bare their experience and journey of parenting a transgender child. They show us that resolve and steadfast love are what truly define the parental instinct.

The Shopping Trip

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 06.16.2014 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

Toothpaste. Shampoo. Cat litter. Storage containers. Paper towels. Laundry detergent. The most basic of items, but in reality, five of these were decoys. But it wasn't what I was buying that made this shopping trip seem so surreal. It was the why.

She Never Was a Boy

Karen Adams | Posted 05.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Karen Adams

Quickly my mind raced through the catalog of her interests, behaviors and clothing choices, and I saw how many clues I had missed. I saw my new daughter for the first time, through the actions of my nephew.

Melissa Jeltsen

This Big Transgender Ruling Is Worth Your Attention

HuffingtonPost.com | Melissa Jeltsen | Posted 02.10.2014 | Gay Voices

Wayne Maines was in a meeting when he got the call. His daughter, a transgender teenager who had been fighting the state of Maine for years over her r...

Mom Shares The 'Lightbulb' Moment She Knew Her Son Was Transgender

Posted 12.09.2013 | Gay Voices

A member of the Gender & Family Project's Parent Group joined HuffPost Live this week to discuss the challenges of raising her 12-year-old son, who id...

Transgender Family Thanksgiving Celebrations

Wayne Maines | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

I dream about the day when families with transgender children will be able to have classic Thanksgiving celebrations. Unfortunately, many families like ours celebrate alone or with a few close friends because they are not considered part of the extended family anymore.

Parts Unknown

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 11.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

Severe pain in my 17-year-old son's abdomen took us to the ER last week. It's one of those situations that everyone dreads, but if you're transgender, there can be an added level of anxiety when the medical professionals aren't current on trans health care. Such was the case for us.

Love More, Fear Less: A Mother and Her Child Share Their Incredible Journey

Franne Golde and Syd Fox | Posted 07.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Franne Golde and Syd Fox

It was a primal scream that went right through me and sent distress signals to my heart. My beautiful 4-year-old daughter stood up in the bathtub as though she were possessed. "Mommy, I'm supposed to be a boy. God made a mistake!" she screamed through heaving tears.

A Mother's Love Redefined

Marsha Aizumi | Posted 07.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Marsha Aizumi

I look back on how I used to define love. I realize that without this amazing experience with my transgender son, I would not have recognized the different ways that love could be expressed. Risking the unknown, our family has been able to create a richer life.

WATCH: Katie Couric Chats With Transgender Youth

Posted 02.26.2013 | Gay Voices

On the latest installment of "Katie," host Katie Couric interviewed three transgender children, taking an in-depth look at their deeply personal (and ...

Massachusetts Takes The Lead On Rights For Transgender Students

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 02.19.2013 | Gay Voices

There is good news for in Massachusetts-based transgender students and and their parents. Last week, the state's Department of Elementary and Seco...

WATCH: Chicago Breaks New Ground With Gender Identity Clinic For Youth

The Huffington Post | JR Tungol | Posted 02.10.2014 | Gay Voices

The Ann & Robert H. Lurie Children's Hospital of Chicago, a pediatric teaching hospital for Northwestern University's medical school, will launch the ...

A Simple Valentine's Day Dance

Wayne Maines | Posted 04.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

Nicole was 10 years old, openly attending school as a transgender girl, and Valentine's Day was right around the corner. One evening Nicole came home, and while we were preparing dinner, she announced that there was going to be a father-daughter dance at the town recreation building.

WATCH: How This Tween Comes Out As Transgender To A Crush

Posted 01.22.2013 | Gay Voices

That first schoolyard crush can challenge even the most confident of tweens, but when the child in question is transgender, it can present an entirely...

A Journey of Gifts

Marsha Aizumi | Posted 02.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Marsha Aizumi

Four years ago this month, my daughter fearfully looked across a table at me and said the words that would forever change my life: "I want to transition to be a boy."

If You Knew Him

Gretchen Peters | Posted 01.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

As the mother of a trans man, I have a hard time dwelling on the fact that hate could drive a person to murder someone like my son. I know what all of us who love our children know: that if you really knew them, you could never hate them. But the fear of what could happen never really goes away.

What Does Transgender Mean? One Semi-Conservative Dad's Perspective

Wayne Maines | Posted 06.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

My transgender daughter Nicole is my mentor. It's tough to put into words what a profound impact this small person has had in changing my core values, but since the young age of 5, she has unknowingly encouraged me to open my eyes and heart to new ideas.

Getting My Happy Baby Back (VIDEO)

Catherine Hyde | Posted 06.06.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Hyde

I had the happiest baby you ever saw. But when my beloved son, at the age of 4, told me that something had gone wrong in my belly and that he was supposed to be a she, I assured him that he was wrong. By the age of 6, Will was threatening suicide.

WATCH: 'It Gets Better' For Parents Of Transgender Youth

Posted 03.20.2012 | Gay Voices

The first "It Gets Better" video to focus exclusively on parents of transgender and gender non-conforming youth has made its web debut. Produced b...

Once a Daughter, Now A Son: The Mother Of A Transgender Child Shares Her Emotional Transition

Patrick Wallace | Posted 03.27.2012 | Gay Voices
Patrick Wallace

A year after sharing her letter with her daughter, now her son Marcus, Kathy updated her original note to reflect the journey she and her son had experienced together. It demonstrates the difference a single year can make.

How to Be a Hero

Gretchen Peters | Posted 02.07.2012 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

If your child has come out to you, you've been entrusted with a precious piece of his or her truth. You have a rare opportunity to become a hero, a champion for your child. You may actually be saving his or her life.