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Parents of Transgender Kids

Transgender Children Today: Shifting the Responsibility for Change Away From Children and Onto Society

Aidan Key | Posted 07.22.2014 | Gay Voices
Aidan Key

How do we change society? We start by listening to the truths of these children and believing, rather than dismissing, them. If we can start by believing the child's clearly stated truth, we are well on our way.

My Trans Son: Standing Tall

Todd Greenwood | Posted 07.14.2014 | Gay Voices
Todd Greenwood

As a society, we have just begun to talk about what it means to be transgender, and I, like most men of my generation, knew almost nothing. If there is anything that I've learned, it's that the subject is deeply complex. I think I understand something fundamental, but I really don't.

Dispelling Myths, Misconceptions and Lies About Gender-Nonconforming Children

Brynn Tannehill | Posted 06.10.2014 | Gay Voices
Brynn Tannehill

Recently, a video about a transgender child in California went viral. Sadly, like every other conversation about transgender children, the comments section was often unkind. Scanning the comments, I saw the same poorly thought-out ideas keep popping up. I think it's time to put these misconceptions to bed.

Grieving a Child Who Is Still Alive

Mary J. Moss | Posted 06.11.2014 | Gay Voices
Mary J. Moss

My daughter Grace passed away in September 2010. There wasn't an obituary. There wasn't a funeral. There wasn't a casket or even a body to put in it. No one sent me sympathy cards. No one brought me casseroles. This wasn't because no one cared yet. It was because my child was still alive.

Allies and Angels

Jorge R. Petit, MD | Posted 07.02.2014 | Gay Voices
Jorge R. Petit, MD

In their book Allies and Angels: A Memoir of Our Family's Transition, Terri and Vince Cook lay bare their experience and journey of parenting a transgender child. They show us that resolve and steadfast love are what truly define the parental instinct.

She Never Was a Boy

Karen Adams | Posted 05.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Karen Adams

Quickly my mind raced through the catalog of her interests, behaviors and clothing choices, and I saw how many clues I had missed. I saw my new daughter for the first time, through the actions of my nephew.

Mom Shares The 'Lightbulb' Moment She Knew Her Son Was Transgender

Posted 12.09.2013 | Gay Voices

A member of the Gender & Family Project's Parent Group joined HuffPost Live this week to discuss the challenges of raising her 12-year-old son, who id...

Transgender Family Thanksgiving Celebrations

Wayne Maines | Posted 01.25.2014 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

I dream about the day when families with transgender children will be able to have classic Thanksgiving celebrations. Unfortunately, many families like ours celebrate alone or with a few close friends because they are not considered part of the extended family anymore.

Parts Unknown

Leslie Lagerstrom | Posted 11.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Leslie Lagerstrom

Severe pain in my 17-year-old son's abdomen took us to the ER last week. It's one of those situations that everyone dreads, but if you're transgender, there can be an added level of anxiety when the medical professionals aren't current on trans health care. Such was the case for us.

Love More, Fear Less: A Mother and Her Child Share Their Incredible Journey

Franne Golde and Syd Fox | Posted 07.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Franne Golde and Syd Fox

It was a primal scream that went right through me and sent distress signals to my heart. My beautiful 4-year-old daughter stood up in the bathtub as though she were possessed. "Mommy, I'm supposed to be a boy. God made a mistake!" she screamed through heaving tears.

A Mother's Love Redefined

Marsha Aizumi | Posted 07.11.2013 | Gay Voices
Marsha Aizumi

I look back on how I used to define love. I realize that without this amazing experience with my transgender son, I would not have recognized the different ways that love could be expressed. Risking the unknown, our family has been able to create a richer life.

WATCH: Katie Couric Chats With Transgender Youth

Posted 02.26.2013 | Gay Voices

On the latest installment of "Katie," host Katie Couric interviewed three transgender children, taking an in-depth look at their deeply personal (and ...

A Simple Valentine's Day Dance

Wayne Maines | Posted 04.09.2013 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

Nicole was 10 years old, openly attending school as a transgender girl, and Valentine's Day was right around the corner. One evening Nicole came home, and while we were preparing dinner, she announced that there was going to be a father-daughter dance at the town recreation building.

A Journey of Gifts

Marsha Aizumi | Posted 02.20.2013 | Gay Voices
Marsha Aizumi

Four years ago this month, my daughter fearfully looked across a table at me and said the words that would forever change my life: "I want to transition to be a boy."

If You Knew Him

Gretchen Peters | Posted 01.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

As the mother of a trans man, I have a hard time dwelling on the fact that hate could drive a person to murder someone like my son. I know what all of us who love our children know: that if you really knew them, you could never hate them. But the fear of what could happen never really goes away.

What Does Transgender Mean? One Semi-Conservative Dad's Perspective

Wayne Maines | Posted 06.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Wayne Maines

My transgender daughter Nicole is my mentor. It's tough to put into words what a profound impact this small person has had in changing my core values, but since the young age of 5, she has unknowingly encouraged me to open my eyes and heart to new ideas.

Getting My Happy Baby Back (VIDEO)

Catherine Hyde | Posted 06.06.2012 | Gay Voices
Catherine Hyde

I had the happiest baby you ever saw. But when my beloved son, at the age of 4, told me that something had gone wrong in my belly and that he was supposed to be a she, I assured him that he was wrong. By the age of 6, Will was threatening suicide.

WATCH: 'It Gets Better' For Parents Of Transgender Youth

Posted 03.20.2012 | Gay Voices

The first "It Gets Better" video to focus exclusively on parents of transgender and gender non-conforming youth has made its web debut. Produced b...

Once a Daughter, Now A Son: The Mother Of A Transgender Child Shares Her Emotional Transition

Patrick Wallace | Posted 03.27.2012 | Gay Voices
Patrick Wallace

A year after sharing her letter with her daughter, now her son Marcus, Kathy updated her original note to reflect the journey she and her son had experienced together. It demonstrates the difference a single year can make.

How to Be a Hero

Gretchen Peters | Posted 02.07.2012 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

If your child has come out to you, you've been entrusted with a precious piece of his or her truth. You have a rare opportunity to become a hero, a champion for your child. You may actually be saving his or her life.

Being Transparent

Gretchen Peters | Posted 01.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Gretchen Peters

This is the child to whom I gave a girl's name, imbued with my own girlish hopes, nurtured the mother-daughter bond that I had with my own mother. What was my relationship with this person if he is my son?