As an educator and advocate for children, I get many queries after tragedy, especially about how we can help our children cope with what they have heard and seen. I hope these simple messages help.

How do you say goodbye to someone with whom you shared not a past full of memories, but a future made of fantasies? How do you make space for sadness when you're surrounded by messages, both internal and external, telling you to buck up and move on?

How do you know when your child or teen is telling you the truth? Being able to decipher truth from fiction is incredibly important for parents.

There are so many things I want to tell the kids. There are so many things I've written for them but never shared with them. I started a little list, things I want the girls to learn one day, things I hope will guide them throughout life.

We have a very low success rate of saving in the United States, and we are passing this legacy of spending on to our kids. We need to see that our children are taught these skills so that they can grow up to be financially literate, and we need to start young.

Later, as we select books to read before bedtime, he requests Where The Wild Things Are -- a book about a boy so untamed, he scares even the most ferocious of creatures. There's a metaphor here, I know it. Is he one of the wild things? Am I? Are we both the boy?

You have memories of the hot tub party in Aspen, that German stranger you met après ski in Lake Tahoe, the sound of powder hitting your skis as you schussed down Rattler in Deer Valley. Forget them. That is not your life anymore. You are skiing with children now.

Somehow, over the last fifteen years, parents have increasingly embraced the idea that rules are for other people's children, and that bending them to make things easier in the short term is a good idea.