While meanness, disrespect, misunderstanding and temper flare-ups are part of life everywhere, in some neighborhoods they can be life-or-death issues. Teaching social skills, empathy, respect and the ability to listen are absolutely crucial.
No one "in charge" has a commitment to actual, holistic change -- you know, to the creation of a lasting peace -- because, whatever that might mean, it would be asking too much. What we need is transformation.