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Perfectionism

Getting Past Perfection

Charlie Maffei | Posted 09.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Charlie Maffei

Too many times in my matchmaking business I meet people who are not only striving for perfection in themselves but looking for perfection in their soul mate. I have news for everyone: No one is perfect. What would happen if we started letting the little things that bother us go?

Are You Becoming UN-done by Doing It All?

Terri Cole | Posted 09.14.2013 | Healthy Living
Terri Cole

I was a straight up workaholic and a crappy delegator. I was proud of how much I worked and how little I slept. I was addicted to the stress of getting it done and pulling off the impossible, until I started questioning the greater value of all of my hard work and sacrifice.

How to Let Go of Perfectionism

Molly Hahn | Posted 09.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Molly Hahn

Trepidation. Fear. Exhaustion. That's what I felt the moment I went to press on the Buddha Doodles Gratitude Journal even though I had spent several ...

WATCH: Are You Authentic -- Or Unknowingly Fake?

OWN | Posted 06.29.2013 | OWN

For more than a decade, Dr. Brené Brown has studied vulnerability, worthiness, shame and courage as a professor at the University of Houston's Gradua...

The Difference Between Perfection and a Healthy Pursuit of Excellence

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 08.24.2013 | GPS for the Soul
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

If you don't achieve an important goal, do you feel like a failure as a human being? Are you driven to get to the top and when you do, your accomplishments never seem to be enough for you?

Lessons From Andre Agassi's: The Perils of Perfectionism

Selina Wang | Posted 08.20.2013 | Sports
Selina Wang

I recently attended a speech by Andre Agassi at Harvard University. Amidst the crowds of people, Agassi strolled in unnoticed. Having seen him dominate the court countless times on TV, I anticipated something different from what I saw.

Julie Jensen: Life Re-imagined: Survive to Thrive

Julie Jensen | Posted 08.18.2013 | Women
Julie Jensen

I'm sure I'd still be searching for fulfillment if I didn't receive a wake-up call on September 30, 2004. I was 26 when I was wheeled into the ER and a nurse asked if I knew what was happening. "I think I had a stroke," I muttered. "Ma'am, you are HAVING a stroke."

How Criticism Can Change Your Life

Shayne Traviss | Posted 08.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Shayne Traviss

Every challenge in our lives presents us with a choice point, an opportunity to make the most suitable decision possible for our highest good. We can choose to react, which creates war or we can choose conscious action, which creates peace.

10 Things To Stop Tolerating (Because Life's Too Short)

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 08.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Paula Davis-Laack

People often get stuck because of fear, guilt, or simply not knowing which way to go next. In order to achieve bigger goals, take smaller steps.

Great Expectations = Great Disappointments

Bradley Foster | Posted 08.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Bradley Foster

There are two sides to expectations. We have to manage our own expectations and we have to be aware of others' expectations of us. Disappointment is a two-way street.

Struggling With Perfectionist Parenting

Brenda Rothman | Posted 08.11.2013 | Parents
Brenda Rothman

I love this kid. Thank you, Jack. Thank you, life. Thank you for showing me the beauty in everyday things, the beauty in the cracks that make me who I am and the beauty in every soul.

Confessions Of A Recovering Perfectionist

Dawn Gluskin | Posted 08.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Dawn Gluskin

Perfectionism is a way of closing off and controlling things. It may look pretty on the outside but in reality it's cold, isolated and dark. It's the cracks that let the light in, anyway. So, go on and ease up a bit. Let some light in and shine on!

The Damage of 'Impossible Perfectionism'

Joie Jager-Hyman | Posted 08.05.2013 | College
Joie Jager-Hyman

Last week, I got an email from a client asking me if it was OK for her son to skip one of his SAT Subject Tests this Saturday because he has been ill from what his doctor diagnosed as "stress-related migraines."

Be Authentic -- It Will Change Your World

Mike Robbins | Posted 08.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

Authenticity is what gives us freedom to be ourselves and be comfortable with who we are, and it's also what gives us access to connecting with other people in a meaningful and genuine way.

Lauren Zalaznick: Perfection Is Overrated

Lauren Zalaznick | Posted 07.31.2013 | Women
Lauren Zalaznick

Some things, like soufflés, holes-in-one, and probably rocket launches require perfection. If and when I change careers, maybe my quest will re-emerge.

Are You A Perfectionist? Relax -- Here's How To Give Yourself A Break

Posted 06.02.2013 | Healthy Living

By Danielle Hark for YouBeauty Perfection is impossible by sheer definition. Yet we strive for it and berate ourselves when we fall short. It's oka...

Confessions of My Imperfections as a Health Coach

Robin Hoffman | Posted 07.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Robin Hoffman

Am I perfect? Not in any way. Do I like to be healthy? Yes. But am I also human and make choices that aren't always wise or the healthiest thing? Absolutely. And maybe, for me, it's time to start sharing more of myself.

Say 'Enough is Enough' to Self-Doubt

Lisa Cleary | Posted 07.14.2013 | Women
Lisa Cleary

While I'll never not be a perfectionist, I do know that I'm good enough for a lot of people. My mom, my family, my friends, my coworkers and my boyfriend all love me for who I am.

When Healthy Eating Becomes Unhealthy

Andrea Wachter | Posted 07.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

For some, restrictive eating is a short-lived stage that ricochets into a junk food rebellion. Others find their way back to the middle of the road. But for many, this so-called "healthy" way of eating can become a true obsession and, at its most extreme, an eating disorder known as orthorexia.

Is This Getting In The Way Of Your Success?

Bob Sullivan | Posted 07.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Bob Sullivan

Do you dwell on small mistakes for hours, days, or even weeks after they occur? Are you crushed when someone points out a small flaw in your work? Have you ever spent four hours fine-tuning a task that could have been completed in 10 minutes?

How To Conquer Perfectionism

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 06.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

Do you find that setting standards too high by trying to do things too perfectly is a source of stress for you? While doing your best is certainly a virtue, perfectionism -- that is, settling for nothing less than perfect -- has a major down side.

April Fools' Day: Your Excuse to Lighten Up!

Randy Taran | Posted 06.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Randy Taran

You are enough just as you are. Dare to be vulnerable, and laugh at the tender and amusing moments we all share in this undulating dance of our humanity.

Fighting Perfectionism Fearlessly

Jonathan Alpert | Posted 05.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Jonathan Alpert

Many of my patients are highly educated, leaders in their industries, and among the best and the brightest. They're also perfectionists, and this can be a real problem for them as it can lead to feelings of anxiety and depression, and often wreaks havoc on relationships.

The 7-Step Guide to Misery

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Why would someone make the choice to be miserable? Because it is often a way of getting attention and of attempting to get someone else to be responsible for them. If this is what you want, here is a roadmap to make sure you accomplish your goal!

Love Lessons: How to Form a Less-Perfect Union, the Kind That Lasts

Tamar Chansky | Posted 02.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Tamar Chansky

The perfect gift this Valentine's Day may just be imperfection -- deciding to not fear it, together. Vow to each other that you'll hang in differently with a fight.