If you think that you're being real, but you're still finding the wrong people showing up in your life, then you need to take a moment to reassess your you-ness.
Happiness has many aspects: From quiet appreciation to living with zest and passion, it's great to explore all the various facets available to you now. Inner happiness has many entry points. Try these out and notice how good you feel.
It is essential to recognize that these family roles are not "the truth," but simply the roles we assume in our relationship to other family members. Typically, there is a sense of self that doesn't match the role, and the individual struggles to reconcile the two.
Does anyone else question authenticity the way I do these days? Does doubt about what is "real" versus "enhanced" interfere with the trust we once had in the people we admire and applaud?