Although it may seem counterintuitive, authentic, vulnerable communication has great power. When we make ourselves open and vulnerable, behaving in a way that extends and elicits respect, that tends to generate the same in the other.
As a lifelong Republican woman I am tired of this ilk claiming they speak for me and for the millions of other mainstream Republicans who remain true to the GOP's tradition as the party of limited government.
We all want to freely chart our own destiny, even if the pathway there is full of risk and uncertainty. We want to freely express our ideas, thoughts, and beliefs without unnecessary pretense and judgment. We simply want the freedom to honor our spirit in each given moment.
The guidance of our wisdom is always available to us, but at times can be a bit hard to hear amidst the noisy chatter of our fearful thoughts. But once we do begin to hear it and understand its significance, there's no going back.
It is essential to recognize that these family roles are not "the truth," but simply the roles we assume in our relationship to other family members. Typically, there is a sense of self that doesn't match the role, and the individual struggles to reconcile the two.
If you choose to focus primarily on the external, on what happens to you, then you may well wind up settling for the life that shows up. If you listen more intently to your Soul-Talk, then you will find that you can create more of the life experience you would prefer.