As a sexual addiction and intimacy disorders specialist, I am often asked about the frequency of sex. Couples want to know what is "healthy." Usually, they're afraid they're either having way too much sex or not nearly enough.
There's a pervasive notion that women simply do not like porn. But does neuroscience back that up? The answer, surprisingly, turns out to be "not exactly." Porn has more sway over women's brains than one might think.
Pictures are flashed, on profiles, when I'm out with friends, to show the sexy guy that's pursuing them. It's fun, initially. I laugh and participate in it too, while loathing my complicity in something I know we are all harmed by and baffled at our participation in a system that does not serve us.
What makes someone attractive to you? Specific physical features? A particular personality type? A certain indefinable quality of character or depth of soul? All reasonable answers, sure, but there's another critical influence on who you're attracted to: context.