By not assuming that your initial thought about something is truth, it allows you to consider potential alternatives that explain an appearance or behavior. Therefore, you should give people the benefit of the doubt.
If I think positive thoughts and take positive actions toward my goals, my destiny can be one of joyful and uplifting, with moments of gleefulness. I might fall and get a few bruises along the way, but if my habit is to get up one more time than I fall, my destiny will be one of success.
Recently, I texted the simple affirmation "sure" as a rushed response to an invitation or suggested social event someone had extended to me. Thinking my response was a clear and appropriate one, I was surprised, confused and yes a bit annoyed by the onslaught of negative comments that followed.
Have you ever noticed that despite being a spiritual person -- or a good person -- it all goes out the window when you hit that airport security line? Perhaps that's what airports were designed for: to test your spiritual mettle.
To make sense of the world without frying our brains, we need to filter out a large portion of all that's coming at us. But how do we distinguish the tiny fraction that's relevant from the massive input we can ignore?
My mom has certainly been the source of constant inspiration. Anyone who has heard me speak has heard stories about her. Although she is highly educated and accomplished, her advice is usually quite simple yet powerful if applied.
The simple truth is this: Our self-concept is our destiny. So if we want to change our destiny for the better, we need to change our concept and beliefs about our selves also for the better. We always have the freedom to choose better thoughts.
Live enough days on this planet and you're going to face some big stuff and plenty of little annoyances. There are bound to be whole days where things don't seem to go your way. What are you going to do with that?
Whether self or externally generated, our thoughts set the stage for how we feel, perceive, act, and react. When a thought makes itself at home in our brains, it prompts the formation of neural pathways that prove highly resistant to change.
Like so many, I was overcome with emotion and pride at Lance's achievement. Then, just four months later, I faced my own cancer diagnosis and ironically, it was cycling that taught me to endure chemotherapy.
Is happiness a choice, or a fleeting experience that occurs only when all our stars are all perfectly aligned? Can we lose happiness as easily as we find it, or are there attitudes we can adopt that will counter feelings of pessimism and help us to build a stronger, more resilient self?
Thirteen years ago, as a cancer patient with 3 and 5-year-old boys, I was afraid. I gained peace by asking myself over and over, "What am I afraid of right now, in this moment?" And the answer was always the same: nothing. My fears were all based on the future.
Our mind is like a very special movie projector that happens to work both in both directions: It projects information, and it receives information. Think of your thoughts as "filters" that are placed over the lens of your projector.
You don't have to pursue the zone in order to perform at the top of your game. Relieved? I hope so, because only when your mind is free from the burden of trying to find mental clarity, does it leaves space for insights, answers, and excellence to come pouring through.
By embracing an optimistic approach, you are able to tackle tough situations productively and with a solution-oriented mindset. By weaving optimism into your attitude, your ability to cope with challenges may increase.
Most people hate closed MRIs. I used to be the same way until I decided to challenge my thoughts about them. What I found is if I allow my inner child and imagination to come forward, my spirits become lifted as a reward.
Changing our state really isn't that hard. It's just that we've been programmed to reach for immediate gratification, for some sort of "medicine" to cover our discomfort, to reach for something external to fix us quickly, to lift us up. But all it takes is a different choice.