The truth is, "no" doesn't mean we are a bad person or doomed to failure. It's not evidence of a conspiracy against us by the fates or proof that our parents/teachers/siblings were right about us and we never will amount to anything. It just means "not yes." That's it. "Not yes."

If you find yourself flat-lining today, anxious, or recently lacking joy in how you are investing time and energy, it is possible to shift. Why wait? If we do not enjoy the moment to the degree we wish, let us consult our desire and re-imagine.

Savoring the sorrow of life could seem antithetical to moving forward. Yet, I found that embracing sorrow has strengthened my resolve.

How often do you talk yourself out of even looking into something or checking out a possibility because of that voice inside your head saying things like "gee, they must get bombarded with things like this all the time," or "that's never going to work"?

What can we do about resignation? To begin, we need to acknowledge and face our own resignation. We don't have much choice about most circumstances, but we always have a choice in how we relate to the circumstances.

Resignation leaves us in a kind of unthinking stupor living day-to-day as if not much matters -- totally unconscious of the fact our point of view and conversations are "closed" and creating a predictable and circumstantially determined future.

After a moment of desperation, I laughed out loud. Hopeless! The list is getting longer, not shorter. Do I really have to do everything I think I have to do? And my inner wisdom whispered, "No."

To maintain your personal transformation, remember that what you focus on is what you get. Mindfulness means keeping your mind on positive thoughts and actions and pulling it back when it wanders off course.

When you master the art and science of the paradigm shift, you're able to make life as meaningful as you like. You're now able to clear the obstacles on the path to the results you want and need. You can silence the whining, self-pitying monkey mind any time you like.

In all my many years of coaching people, I've never met anyone without a "monkey mind" -- the little voice that runs a commentary on what's wrong with us and why we can't get what we want and need.

If a person stood at the top of a mountain to look into the surroundings, they would get one perspective. Likewise, if another person stood on another mountain and looked in a different direction to admire all the beauty, they would get another perspective.

While we often have little or no control over the situations that affect us, we do have control over our own perceptions of them. We do have the very real and extremely potent power of perspective.

Present times require us to be faster and more responsive to change than ever before. We are being given the opportunity to demonstrate how adaptable and flexible we truly are.

We no longer see ourselves as active and response-able participants in the connective universal plan, but rather, the boss of it. Ironically, this leaves us feeling disturbed, disempowered, disconnected.

Do you ever doubt yourself? Insidious thing doubt. Doubt has its value. I have two sayings around doubt that I find useful. If in doubt, don't do. Hold, don't act. When in doubt, check it out. Get more information.

Our media commentary is rarely about what is happening now - mostly it's about what happened in the past or what someone thinks is going to happen in the future.