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Praise

What if Frank Bruni Has a Point?

Stacey Gill | Posted 04.09.2013 | Parents
Stacey Gill

All parents, understandably, love and hope to be loved by their children. But that shouldn't be the goal to the exclusion of all others. And Bruni isn't far from the mark when he claims parents often half-expect children to be able to raise themselves without any set rules or boundaries.

The One Thing You Can Do To Make Your Adult Kids Happy

Donne Davis | Posted 04.06.2013 | Fifty
Donne Davis

We would all do well to remember Mother Teresa's wise words: "There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread."

In Defense of Parents: A Child Therapist's Dissent

Kenneth Barish, Ph.D. | Posted 05.20.2013 | Parents
Kenneth Barish, Ph.D.

Here are the essential elements of a balanced, supportive approach to raising successful and caring children. It is not either/or. We can encourage our children's self-expression and also teach them self-restraint.

How to Praise Your Kids and Teens

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 05.14.2013 | Parents
Barbara Greenberg

Kids should be praised primarily for their efforts, rather than for their personal characteristics, because if they are praised for effort, then a poor performance is more likely to be seen as a glitch, rather than a valid reflection of who they are as individuals.

We Validate Our Parking, Why Not Each Other?

Ilana Ross | Posted 05.01.2013 | College
Ilana Ross

Like my haircuts, my birthdays never turn out just the way I want. Somebody important forgets to call and then I realize this is just a day like any other day in history. The next thing I know I'm two skim lattes into a blog post about my irrelevance in the world.

Negative Feedback: Confidence Crusher Or Motivating?

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. | Posted 04.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.

According to recent studies, you shouldn't worry so much when it comes to pointing out mistakes to someone who is experienced. Negative feedback won't crush their confidence, but it just might give them the information they need to take their performance to the next level.

On Praise and 'Bribes': What the New York Times Got Right (and What It Didn't)

Emma Jenner | Posted 03.30.2013 | Parents
Emma Jenner

Children need challenges and increased expectations as they age, but change can be scary, and offering rewards -- coupled with choice and a sense of autonomy -- helps make their introduction smoother.

Our Favorite Spiritual Songs - What Is Yours?

Posted 12.06.2012 | Religion

Music has been called the language of the soul and the sacred can be heard in songs across religious traditions. Every person has a favorite spiritual...

What's the Difference Between Praise and Blame?

Doug Binzak | Posted 02.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

Situations of being blamed or hearing negative things about oneself are obviously challenging to the ego. And in waking up that beast, they present more subtle challenges to the development of our ultimate human potential.

Sparkplug Scutaro: The Velcro Effect of Insults and Praise

Kare Anderson | Posted 12.25.2012 | Business
Kare Anderson

Praise individuals for praising others. This is a vivid, credible and becoming approach to bringing out the best in all of us. Heck, even waiters who compliment customers get three percent bigger tips, on average.

Two Secrets to Being Perceived As Helpful Rather Than Critical

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 11.11.2012 | Small Business
Lisa Earle McLeod

When you offer suggestions in the wrong way, people won't perceive you as helpful. They'll just perceive you as critical.

Salute a Teenager

Maureen Anderson | Posted 10.22.2012 | Parents
Maureen Anderson

Some people can't wait to pass along the latest bad news. I feel guilty if I hear -- or notice -- good news and don't pass that along.

Acknowledge the People in Your Life... and Watch Relationships Transform

Karen Kimsey-House | Posted 10.08.2012 | Fifty
Karen Kimsey-House

There's an epidemic lurking throughout society that's debilitating many people and I'm not talking about Vitamin D deficiency: We've forgotten to let others know when we really get them

7 Tips For Giving Praise

Gretchen Rubin | Posted 07.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Gretchen Rubin

Oh, I'm a gold star junkie. I always want to see those gold stars stuck to the top of my homework. I crave praise, appreciation, recognition. But it's not always easy to dole out those gold stars in an effective way. Here are seven tips.

Beauty and Luck

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar | Posted 04.14.2012 | Healthy Living
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

When you rejoice in beauty, the entire creation rejoices with you. The very purpose of such variety in this creation is to bring you back to your Self, to come to know that you are beautiful. And in that bliss, all that you need, all that you would want will simply keep happening.

Criticizing (Common Criticisms of) Praise

Alfie Kohn | Posted 04.04.2012 | Home
Alfie Kohn

The problem isn't that kids expect praise for everything they do. The problem is with our need for control, our penchant for placing conditions on our love, and our continued reliance on the long-discredited premises of behaviorism.

Unintentional Innuendo: What Is It And Are You Doing It Too?

Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D. | Posted 01.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Heidi Grant Halvorson, Ph.D.

Why don't we just come out and say what we really mean? The short answer is that there is an awful lot of social pressure to avoid directly criticizing other people.

Parenting: What Praise Helps and What Praise Harms?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 10.29.2011 | Parents
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Astounding research shows that praising children for their abilities actually lowers their level of achievement, while praising them for their effort ...

Balanced Life -- 7 Tips for Giving Effective Praise.

Gretchen Rubin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Gretchen Rubin

Every Wednesday is Tip Day. This Wednesday: 7 tips for giving effective praise. Gold-star junkie that I am, I was once grumbling to my mother...

Do You Substitute Praise For Parenting?

Judith Acosta | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Judith Acosta

Praising, which is a marvelous thing when it is merited and sincerely given, has become as freely distributed in the schools and playgrounds as cake at a birthday party.

Would You Like To Stop Worrying About What Others Think?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

There is one specific belief that anyone with this problem almost certainly has: "What makes me good enough is having people think well of me."

Nurture Shock: How Praise, Protection And PBS Are Ruining Our Kids

Kari Henley | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Kari Henley

Essentially, the take-away is that parents today are treating their kids as if they are mini-adults, when, in fact, they require vastly different tools and parameters to grow up.

How to Raise Happy Kids

Christine Carter, PhD | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Christine Carter, PhD

Research shows that people typically pursue happiness in ways that don't make them happy.

9 Tips For Giving Memorable Praise--And Why To Bother

Gretchen Rubin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Gretchen Rubin

I just finished a very engaging book, Richard Stengel's You're Too Kind: A Brief History of Flattery. I wish I'd had this book as a resource when I wa...

The Significance And Dangers Of Praise

Psychology Today Blogs | Dr. Terri Apter | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living

One surprising discovery I made when I was doing the research for my book The Confident Child, was that children often respond negatively to praise. ...