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Pregnancy Loss

It Happened to Me: Infertility Treatments Didn't Work and I Defined My Own Motherhood

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.27.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

We must give ourselves permission to make our own family, however that may look. And, as a society we must all have more fertility compassion for whatever those means are.

Loss is Loss and Comparison Only Leaves Us Alone In It

Justine Brooks Froelker | Posted 10.16.2014 | Parents
Justine Brooks Froelker

Does it hurt less that I have lost three, but she has lost five? Does it hurt less that you at least got a couple of years with him? Does it hurt less that she lived a longer life and mine never grew?

he Storm That Follows a Lost Pregnancy

Tina Donvito | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Tina Donvito

The snow did indeed come, and as we hunkered down at home I was glad the world was howling along with me. The storm was an aberration against nature, just as losing my baby was. Snow in October is not supposed to happen. Losing your baby is not supposed to happen.

5 Ways Pregnancy After a Miscarriage Is Different

Meredith Hale | Posted 10.15.2014 | Parents
Meredith Hale

A miscarriage is a scar that never fully fades; no matter how much time goes by, a shadow of that loss always lingers.

I Can't Share Your Joy

Sarah Warman | Posted 10.07.2014 | Women
Sarah Warman

I see the updates. I see the newly posted pictures of a growing belly. I see the pictures of a nursery that was tirelessly decorated. I have the same pictures. But you'll never see them. It's not because I'm ashamed of my belly or because I'm an awful painter or decorator. It's because I didn't get the happy ending.

Talking To Children About Pregnancy And Infant Loss

Tara Shafer | Posted 09.25.2014 | Parents
Tara Shafer

I still think a lot about that searing winter when the dead and the living were juxtaposed, each clamoring impossibly to be understood. I remember the white-hot grief and the blunt-force trauma of my sudden loss, and also the sweet presence of my little boy, playing with blocks.

How to Support Someone After a Stillbirth

Nitzia Logothetis | Posted 06.22.2014 | Parents
Nitzia Logothetis

Most of us understand what happens when we lose a person close to us. We revisit the memories of our time together. We cry over the relationship we had and the future we have lost. When someone loses a child to stillbirth, that relationship didn't even have a chance to develop.

The Secret Pain Some Families Face At Passover

Carrie Goldman | Posted 06.14.2014 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

What happened to our baby was just bad luck; I know that, and religion had nothing to do with it, but my gut instinct on Passover is to seek answers.

I Was Pregnant for Over a Year

Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. | Posted 04.11.2014 | Parents
Jessica Zucker, Ph.D.

On a Tuesday in mid-October, while sitting in my dermatologists waiting room, I noticed that I had to urinate for what seemed like the thousandth time that morning. And there it was. Blood.

The Shadows of Advent

Tara Woodard-Lehman | Posted 02.02.2014 | Religion
Tara Woodard-Lehman

For most of my life I paid little attention to Advent. I had vague childhood memories of singing melancholy hymns with minor chords. I occasionally lit candles around an Advent wreath. But one day, about 12 years ago, that changed.

Why Can't We Talk About Miscarriage?

Katrina Markel | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Katrina Markel

The common line of thinking is that in the first trimester you should "only tell people you are willing to also tell about a miscarriage." The problem with this piece of advice is that it also leaves us with the impression that we're not SUPPOSED to talk about miscarriage.

The Personal Pain Of Secondary Infertility

Amy Wruble | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Amy Wruble

In my case, the glitch is declining egg quality, but I know other, younger mamas who can't seem to make a second baby either. It's wildly frustrating. And it hurts not to be able to create the family you envisioned.

Every 21 Minutes This Happens To A Mother

The Huffington Post | Lisa Belkin | Posted 10.30.2013 | Parents

New mothers are not supposed to leave the hospital with empty arms. To arrive in labor and depart in mourning is to upend the way the world is suppose...

Why Our Hearts Will Always Be In Two Places At Once

Kathryn Catalino | Posted 01.23.2014 | Parents
Kathryn Catalino

Our beautiful, perfect daughter, Callie Elizabeth Catalino, was born at 8:03 p.m. on May 31, 2011. I whispered to her that I loved her and that I would miss her every day of my life. I asked her to give us strength to continue on, to make it through each minute of our "new normal."

5 Ways to Revolutionize How We Think About Pregnancy Loss

Jessica Zucker, Ph.D. | Posted 11.10.2013 | Parents
Jessica Zucker, Ph.D.

Here are five ways we can revolutionize how we think about pregnancy loss and its aftermath, whether it has happened to you or someone you love, with the aim of unraveling the thread of shame.

The Zen of Miscarriage

Cheryl Dumesnil | Posted 06.12.2013 | Parents
Cheryl Dumesnil

How do you say goodbye to someone with whom you shared not a past full of memories, but a future made of fantasies? How do you make space for sadness when you're surrounded by messages, both internal and external, telling you to buck up and move on?

The Most Important Thing I Realized After My Son's Diagnosis

Megan Pillow | Posted 06.07.2013 | Parents
Megan Pillow

When the nurses took Atticus to the nursery a few hours after his birth because his temperature was low, it didn't occur to me to be afraid. Even when a nurse entered the room with a doctor who introduced herself as a neonatologist, it didn't trigger an alarm.

No Matter When it Happens, Loss of a Pregnancy Can Be Devastating

Erica Berman | Posted 09.17.2012 | Healthy Living
Erica Berman

This was a major turning point in my life. It didn't make sense to me, and it did not seem right. It is one of the reasons I gave up my former career path, went back to school, and became an infertility counsellor.