Ours is a society obsessed with FOMO. And yet, many of us miss out on the most important thing of all, our own life. Seems we ought to be worrying less about missing the next party and more about missing existence.
The truth is, though, it's not just the world that's changing around me, it's me, myself and I as well. And while some songs, some people, some places always seem to fit in the best way possible, others I've simply outgrown, as we all do.
I now know if I want to get there that I have to do the things that keep me on course, and I can't do the things that take me off course. Life is expanding. My vision is expanding. I know how to get there -- one step at a time.
This year, I don't want memories. I don't want wishes or goals or resolutions. I don't want the fantasy, the promise of tomorrow. I don't want plans or agenda or deadlines. I don't want excuses. I don't want distractions. I don't want more time. I don't want yesterday. I don't want tomorrow.
In today's culture we're defined by what we do and how productive we are. Stripped of this we can feel lost and purposeless. We've become human doings instead of human beings. Regaining our joy and purpose in life requires a new relationship with time.
It's summertime, and the living (should be) easy. Too bad the workweek -- with its hectic pace and jam-packed to-do list -- doesn't always cooperate. For most of us, Friday just can't come soon enough.
To fuel our highest level performance we need a clear mind. If the mind is filled with fear, self-sabotaging beliefs, and self-doubt, we are impeded, a bit like driving a car with the brake on. Emotional turmoil clouds our view and we cannot perform well.
Setting goals puts you in the driver's seat, giving you the power to transform your life or take a company into the future. As enticing as that sounds, it is more common than not those goals are abandoned.
There's no sense in wasting time pretending to be someone you're not so that you'll fit in with the people you don't belong with. Life is short, spend it with people who love and appreciate the real you.
I learned to sit on a curbside for hours with my 2-year-old son and feel contentment just by counting the different types of trucks that passed by. I felt delight as I watched them play in the puddles of a pouring rain. I learned to stay in the moment, where children naturally live.
Even when we have what we want, we still can't land in this moment. We cling to the illusion that there are indeed a set of circumstances that, once we achieve them, will finally, miraculously make this moment inhabitable.
Like everything, humans included, technology resolves itself in contradiction. And yet, we must be mindful of what we are doing with technology, particularly when in the company of our children. Our emotional presence is the greatest gift we can offer our children.
We must remember to look up from our screens, not only to avoid getting hit by oncoming traffic but because of the possibilities that looking up offers, and to remind ourselves that we are a part of a much larger matrix of life upon which we all depend.
Unplugging and recharging is about being in a chilled out state as much as you can throughout your day, rather than having to take time out from the rest of your day, which you have decided to make stressful.