Our problem is, while we want to refrain from any violent or loud reaction, eventually, the emotion has been suppressed for so long, it erupts like a volcano, and displaces our logic. Rational leaders become irrational as they react to repeated problem behavior. It is punitive, not redemptive in nature.
She was bathed and dressed, wearing cute summer shorts and a matching top. Blue. We went to play on the bay beach for a few minutes before dinner. Swing on the swings. Dig in the sand. Sit on the teeter-totter. It was not time to play in the water. Re-read the first part of the first sentence -- she was bathed and dressed. She was also 4 years old and into testing both herself and me.