Society may try at every turn to tell my children, through what they see, hear, and read, "This is how women are portrayed in our culture. Accept it, you can't change it." But in my small big way and in front of three boys who will one day be men, I can say, "No. No, we don't have to accept it."
On regular days phrases like "a little chaos is a good thing" and "at least it's happy noise" have the desired calming effect, but on this PMS-migraine, one-two-punch day I call out the big guns: "It might have been otherwise." You see, for Tracie and me, parenthood was hard-won.