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Over and over and over, women and girls receive the message to keep quiet, be sweet and not cause a fuss. It's a rigged system. And yet the public is shocked and dismayed when victims of violent abuse stay or defend the abuser.
For years after I came out of the closet, I was embarrassed to tell people about the rape, because I was convinced that people would say, "Oh, well, it's obvious that this experience made you a lesbian. It turned you against men."