We sat on the edge of Berehaven harbor, a fishing port on the southwestern coast of Ireland. Looking out into the misty water as a light drizzle began to fall onto empty boats, I wanted Charlie to kiss me even though I had a boyfriend back home.
If you're really contemplating divorce, take the time to think about all the consequences. Think about how your partner will feel, and how you will feel. Think about what you're leaving behind and ask yourself the tough questions, like, "Is it worth it?"
Think of the first step you would have to take for your dream to come true and then do it! Putting your dream on the to-do list will actually ensure that you are not going to forget about it or put it on the back burner.
As long as we live, it is never too late to be ourselves and to make peace with our choices and the people in our life (past or present). So, if you want to live and die really well, befriend, honor, and love yourself madly and deeply.
While there's always room for improvement, toddlers fall down many times before becoming proficient at walking. They may cry but they don't feel ashamed. Instead they get up, make adjustments, and try again.
The fact is, in 2014, with the world becoming hotter, flatter, and rapidly more crowded, we're caught inescapably in a crippling blizzard of choices. And the problem is, we don't even know what we want anymore.
This year, I don't want memories. I don't want wishes or goals or resolutions. I don't want the fantasy, the promise of tomorrow. I don't want plans or agenda or deadlines. I don't want excuses. I don't want distractions. I don't want more time. I don't want yesterday. I don't want tomorrow.
Until you and I detach from all things, until we can let go of the illusion of control, we remain incarcerated, as it were, incapable of knowing the "abundant life" as Jesus called it -- which explains much of the division that is our world.
Of course, it shouldn't take a serious recession to remind us that we should be grateful for our good fortunes. But in a world where it's all too easy to lose sight of what's going right, there may be long-term gains from short-term losses.
For me, probably the biggest motivator to go for it is regret. I don't want to look back and regret not trying something. I don't want to be "alone with my dreams of yesteryear," thinking coulda, woulda, shoulda. While I may never be juggling fire or swords, at least I gave it a shot.
I have so many pictures from vacations and parties. I should have taken at least one picture of her brushing her teeth before bed. But that won't happen. All I have left is 782 pictures and regrets I can't even begin to count.
Kris Jenner revealed this week that her one regret in life was divorcing Robert Kardashian. However, she adds that without the divorce, she wouldn't have her daughters Kendall and Kylie. Like Kris, a lot of people have divorce-related regrets.
The practice is to remind yourself that in those unavoidable moments of darkness that come with the privilege of living in a human skin, it is the nature of the light to give itself to you unconditionally.
Even momentarily concentrating on healthy solutions rewires psychological patterns to receive and share healthy sexual love in the present. Here are three meditations with the themes of regret, reconciliation, and philia for you to ponder and practice this week.
Normally we are looking through the lens of our prejudices and needs, through past regrets or future hopes, but without these we find each moment is infused with uniqueness, that everything is constantly fresh, new and unknown.
Whether we're able to consciously or subconsciously reason away our regrets or not, it's best to be prepared to experience them when we're dealing with a loved one's end of life. No matter what, there will be regrets.