Balance is one of those concepts best thought of in terms of the verb, not the noun. The ongoing action of balancing is our main concern. The result of balance is always to some extent an ideal toward which we move, and in whose light we see what needs to be done now.
Why is excessive worry such a big regret? Because, according to the elders, worry wastes your very limited and precious lifetime. By poisoning the present moment, they told me, you lose days, months, or years that you can never recover.
Sometimes the best way to resolve regret is to start living in the moment. I used to get really mad at people and feel unable to let go of my resentments. I'm not saying today I am perfect, but today I am aware.
Katie falls asleep to the sound of my laughter, knowing she's 100 percent responsible. It's been such a privilege, watching her grow up. She puts on a good show. But me? I'm a good audience. And that's what makes me a good mom.
Why do we put things off? Is our fear of failure, disappointment or embarrassment really so great that we let it lay waste to our dreams? Perhaps. But we also procrastinate because we believe we'll live forever.
Think about a current situation in your life in which you're contemplating a big decision. Here is how to avoid second-guessing or regrets to feel best about your decision, as well as to master the decision-making process itself.
Are you ready to go down the rabbit hole of possibilities with your own life? Start with a moment from your past in which rapid, intense, and clear change occurred. Now, thoughtfully consider who you would be today if the turning point incident had never occurred.
Regret is about not knowing then what we ended up knowing later. So, when faced with a day of appointments that are hard to cancel, I can look ahead and say to myself: If you don't go now and something goes awry, you will regret it later.
As psychologist Dr. Neal Roese stated, "On average, regret is a helpful emotion." It can even be an inspiring one. But it means that we must recognize our disappointments, understanding that it's our capacity to experience regret deeply, and learn from it to ultimately frame our future success.
No one is bad and sinful by nature; rather, we are projecting these characteristics onto the objects we are viewing in this way. Both non-virtuous and virtuous actions arise because of the way we view things, and we have the ability to eliminate ignorant views and replace them with "right view."
On the path of life, most of us are hauling way too much weight. What's in your own backpack? If you're like most of us, you've got too many items on each day's to-do list and too much stuff in the closet. Too many entanglements with other people. And too many worries, guilts, and regrets.
You can't control anybody -- all you can do is speak your truth and hope for the best. For you to be healthy and happy, to have a chance at getting what you want, you have to put yourself out there without the slightest idea of what will happen.
As much as you are aware that regret is a miserable place to hang out, you cannot seem to be free of it. But I have good news: Liberation from regret is 100 percent possible! And it is essential to your well-being that you commit to letting go of regret.
Many think self-love is just a form of narcissism, but the purest love knows no conceit. From a spiritual perspective, loving the self communicates humility and gratitude to whatever force gives us life.
Most of my clients this week had a theme of being stuck in regret. And I laughed to myself because I was actually in the middle of doing the same round of work on myself that I was asking them to do. Since I was so raw in this area, I was even more able to help than usual.