While there's always room for improvement, toddlers fall down many times before becoming proficient at walking. They may cry but they don't feel ashamed. Instead they get up, make adjustments, and try again.
The fact is, in 2014, with the world becoming hotter, flatter, and rapidly more crowded, we're caught inescapably in a crippling blizzard of choices. And the problem is, we don't even know what we want anymore.
This year, I don't want memories. I don't want wishes or goals or resolutions. I don't want the fantasy, the promise of tomorrow. I don't want plans or agenda or deadlines. I don't want excuses. I don't want distractions. I don't want more time. I don't want yesterday. I don't want tomorrow.
Until you and I detach from all things, until we can let go of the illusion of control, we remain incarcerated, as it were, incapable of knowing the "abundant life" as Jesus called it -- which explains much of the division that is our world.
Of course, it shouldn't take a serious recession to remind us that we should be grateful for our good fortunes. But in a world where it's all too easy to lose sight of what's going right, there may be long-term gains from short-term losses.
For me, probably the biggest motivator to go for it is regret. I don't want to look back and regret not trying something. I don't want to be "alone with my dreams of yesteryear," thinking coulda, woulda, shoulda. While I may never be juggling fire or swords, at least I gave it a shot.
I have so many pictures from vacations and parties. I should have taken at least one picture of her brushing her teeth before bed. But that won't happen. All I have left is 782 pictures and regrets I can't even begin to count.
Kris Jenner revealed this week that her one regret in life was divorcing Robert Kardashian. However, she adds that without the divorce, she wouldn't have her daughters Kendall and Kylie. Like Kris, a lot of people have divorce-related regrets.
The practice is to remind yourself that in those unavoidable moments of darkness that come with the privilege of living in a human skin, it is the nature of the light to give itself to you unconditionally.
Even momentarily concentrating on healthy solutions rewires psychological patterns to receive and share healthy sexual love in the present. Here are three meditations with the themes of regret, reconciliation, and philia for you to ponder and practice this week.
Normally we are looking through the lens of our prejudices and needs, through past regrets or future hopes, but without these we find each moment is infused with uniqueness, that everything is constantly fresh, new and unknown.
Whether we're able to consciously or subconsciously reason away our regrets or not, it's best to be prepared to experience them when we're dealing with a loved one's end of life. No matter what, there will be regrets.
The level of guilt we feel often dictates the length of time we take to get over what ever it is we have done. Some people, even though forgiven by those they have wronged, never forgive themselves, making every tomorrow a yesterday before it even happens.
Balance is one of those concepts best thought of in terms of the verb, not the noun. The ongoing action of balancing is our main concern. The result of balance is always to some extent an ideal toward which we move, and in whose light we see what needs to be done now.
Why is excessive worry such a big regret? Because, according to the elders, worry wastes your very limited and precious lifetime. By poisoning the present moment, they told me, you lose days, months, or years that you can never recover.
Sometimes the best way to resolve regret is to start living in the moment. I used to get really mad at people and feel unable to let go of my resentments. I'm not saying today I am perfect, but today I am aware.
Katie falls asleep to the sound of my laughter, knowing she's 100 percent responsible. It's been such a privilege, watching her grow up. She puts on a good show. But me? I'm a good audience. And that's what makes me a good mom.
Why do we put things off? Is our fear of failure, disappointment or embarrassment really so great that we let it lay waste to our dreams? Perhaps. But we also procrastinate because we believe we'll live forever.