Every year I am a mother. I am amazed at how much wisdom my own mother has, and how little I actually know. I am overwhelmed by the sacrifices she made, the energy she continues to have and the work she made look so effortless.
Why is excessive worry such a big regret? Because, according to the elders, worry wastes your very limited and precious lifetime. By poisoning the present moment, they told me, you lose days, months, or years that you can never recover.
Think about a current situation in your life in which you're contemplating a big decision. Here is how to avoid second-guessing or regrets to feel best about your decision, as well as to master the decision-making process itself.
Regret is about not knowing then what we ended up knowing later. So, when faced with a day of appointments that are hard to cancel, I can look ahead and say to myself: If you don't go now and something goes awry, you will regret it later.
On New Year's Eve I prefer to pay homage to my mother my own way. If I had known that night she was going to leave us, I would have kissed her, hugged her and told her I loved her. I didn't, because it truly never dawned on me that this was her last night.
No one is bad and sinful by nature; rather, we are projecting these characteristics onto the objects we are viewing in this way. Both non-virtuous and virtuous actions arise because of the way we view things, and we have the ability to eliminate ignorant views and replace them with "right view."
You can't control anybody -- all you can do is speak your truth and hope for the best. For you to be healthy and happy, to have a chance at getting what you want, you have to put yourself out there without the slightest idea of what will happen.
As much as you are aware that regret is a miserable place to hang out, you cannot seem to be free of it. But I have good news: Liberation from regret is 100 percent possible! And it is essential to your well-being that you commit to letting go of regret.
Most of my clients this week had a theme of being stuck in regret. And I laughed to myself because I was actually in the middle of doing the same round of work on myself that I was asking them to do. Since I was so raw in this area, I was even more able to help than usual.
In order to get on with our lives, we have to confront the discomforting truth that we may never know why we made the choices we did; why we got the unlucky family or set of circumstances. And even more so, that no amount of introspection may provide us with the means to rectify it all.
This simple re-framing of any incident, within the boundaries and circumstances of existing overriding conditions of time and understanding, automatically relegates the matter of forgiveness to its rightful realm.
Social media has teens living their lives out online for everyone to see -- friends and family as well as their enemies and bullies. All too often, when problems arise, teens hold everything inside instead of reaching out for help.
I asked athletic fans of my www.SecretRegrets.com project (where people anonymously confess the biggest regrets of their lives) to share the biggest regret of their athletic career -- the one regret that sidelined them and dashed their dreams of achieving athletic greatness.