Kris Jenner revealed this week that her one regret in life was divorcing Robert Kardashian. However, she adds that without the divorce, she wouldn't have her daughters Kendall and Kylie. Like Kris, a lot of people have divorce-related regrets.
Use these as a north star to help guide your actions in the days that follow toward an even more fulfilling life. Although we can veer off the path, when we notice the star, we can always come back to it.
Surprisingly, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying is not a depressing book. It illuminates ways in which even during the final stage of life, there can be redemption and acceptance through the expression and openhearted exchange of honesty and gratitude.
Normally we are looking through the lens of our prejudices and needs, through past regrets or future hopes, but without these we find each moment is infused with uniqueness, that everything is constantly fresh, new and unknown.
Whether we're able to consciously or subconsciously reason away our regrets or not, it's best to be prepared to experience them when we're dealing with a loved one's end of life. No matter what, there will be regrets.
The level of guilt we feel often dictates the length of time we take to get over what ever it is we have done. Some people, even though forgiven by those they have wronged, never forgive themselves, making every tomorrow a yesterday before it even happens.
After seeing a Facebook photo of Carmina and her best friend Patty last month, I realized something was wrong. The comments below the picture read 'BFF's before there were BFF's' and 'Very significant photo.' I sent questions to her FB friends. The funeral was the next morning.
When I think of the end of my life, I know I'd be much more disappointed in myself for not taking the risk than I would be for having a number of near misses. I know that regrets will be much harder to swallow than off-shoots.
Every year I am a mother. I am amazed at how much wisdom my own mother has, and how little I actually know. I am overwhelmed by the sacrifices she made, the energy she continues to have and the work she made look so effortless.
Why is excessive worry such a big regret? Because, according to the elders, worry wastes your very limited and precious lifetime. By poisoning the present moment, they told me, you lose days, months, or years that you can never recover.
Think about a current situation in your life in which you're contemplating a big decision. Here is how to avoid second-guessing or regrets to feel best about your decision, as well as to master the decision-making process itself.
Regret is about not knowing then what we ended up knowing later. So, when faced with a day of appointments that are hard to cancel, I can look ahead and say to myself: If you don't go now and something goes awry, you will regret it later.
On New Year's Eve I prefer to pay homage to my mother my own way. If I had known that night she was going to leave us, I would have kissed her, hugged her and told her I loved her. I didn't, because it truly never dawned on me that this was her last night.
No one is bad and sinful by nature; rather, we are projecting these characteristics onto the objects we are viewing in this way. Both non-virtuous and virtuous actions arise because of the way we view things, and we have the ability to eliminate ignorant views and replace them with "right view."