I am not suggesting we turn back the clock on social networking, even if that were possible. You may land your next job or meet your next great love online. I do want to stress that no online chat or text-speak can take the place of face-to-face interaction and nuanced conversation.
I'm going to make mistakes and I do my best to learn from them. I have forgiven myself because I believe that marriage is mostly about growth and growth requires change and change often comes with pain.
We will never end up anywhere deeply satisfying by avoiding challenge. Each moment that we are willing to be uncomfortable in a relationship, to live in and through the messiness, is a drop of gold in the relationship itself.
Taking our attention off of our partner will enable us to embody a higher level of vulnerability and encourage them to them to feel less defensive and consequently more inclined to listen to our concerns and needs with a more conciliatory attitude.
Everyone is a reflection of something inside us. What we avoid becomes our focus, and what we focus on grows. The more we avoid our darkness, the more it will present us with scenarios that force us to face the very thing we are trying to hide from.
There comes a time in every relationship when you must sit down and ask, "Now that we have been dating for a while, are we officially a couple?" If you do not have this conversation, you are never going to know where you stand. It works, trust me!
Radical Transparency is a way of relating to your partner in which you reveal your inner self, your true experience. That means exposing your vulnerabilities and fears, as well as your desires and points of view about whatever issues you're discussing.
There are things you can do to ensure a healthy relationship, even through differences and difficulties. These are my tried-and-tested tips that have helped countless couples in my practice become fearlessly married.
I worry about maintaining independence while "letting the man be a man." If I offer to pay for anything, I worry I've emasculated the guy, which is the last thing I want to do. This, in turn, makes me wonder if I should stop offering. But then I worry: Will he think I'm a "gold digger"?
To be an essential member of a personally fulfilling group can be very empowering. However, it can also keep you stuck. In order to experience real growth, we need to challenge the sometimes staid comfort of staying put.
A standard is a level of quality, something that is accepted as a norm, and generally used as a basis for judgment. An expectation is a strong belief that something is going to happen in the future, or a feeling that someone or something is going to achieve something.
People fail to realize that marriage is hard work and ultimately don't know how to stay connected to their significant other. Now that same-sex couples across the nation see legal marriage as an attainable goal, it is time for us to demonstrate ways to create ideal marriages or relationships.
Reigniting our relationships can be as simple as carrying out those small, caring acts that make our partners feel acknowledged and loved for who they are. Taking steps each day to counter these habitual patterns leads us down a path that is much more fulfilling, much braver, and much more real.
Growing your business and personal life together is a challenge that will forever require attention and work, but will also deliver rewarding feelings and memories, while undoubtedly filling your heart with love.
The abundance of choice in our society -- and the advertising and media culture that (quite effectively) makes us feel that we won't be complete until we acquire that next great thing -- is taking its toll on our relationships.
If you ever talk over each other, if your discussions have a tendency to turn into arguments or if you feel you are not being heard, then the talking stick is an excellent way to communicate and can save enormous amounts of time, energy and heartache within your relationship.