In its simplest terms, divorce means separation. You're splitting up. You're breaking up. The two of you have made a decision to disconnect, detach and distance yourself from each other. But what about the relationships you have formed with other people because of your marriage?
I truly think that the first time you have sex after marriage is a monumental experience. It can be traumatizing, scary, sad, or strange, but it can also be exciting, fun, heart-stoppingly great, or over-the-top, out of the ballpark amazing.
Many divorced people forget the fragility of marital bliss and remarry with the same certainty and optimism they had the first time. I didn't want to forget, and my decision not to remarry was my way of ensuring I never would.