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Remarriage With Children

'Blended' -- A Fine Plan B

Tara Fass | Posted 06.10.2014 | Divorce
Tara Fass

The children are drawn towards a need -- a void they want filled -- as parents do their best to keep their lives afloat. Just because a way of life or method worked in the past, one doesn't necessarily keep working in that same manner.

Finding Bliss When Remarrying With Children

Valerie DeLoach | Posted 07.14.2014 | Divorce
Valerie DeLoach

Are we still blissfully happy like a couple of newlyweds? Sure, but it's not quite the same blissfully happy when you are in a blended family.

DIY Ideas for Incorporating Children into Second Weddings

Rachel Sherman | Posted 07.13.2014 | Weddings
Rachel Sherman

A second marriage is different. It starts with a second wedding. This wedding is also different. First of all, you are an old hat. Second of all, much of the weight is (hopefully) lifted.

One Big, Happy Family

Krista Barth | Posted 05.11.2014 | Divorce
Krista Barth

No "steps," no "halfs," no "yours," no "mine," just family.

One Woman's Frog is Another Woman's Prince

Jenna Korf | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Jenna Korf

Moms, would you not jump at the opportunity to have some help on your end? It seems like some moms are only seeing that their ex-husbands are benefitting, and they're not.

4 Signs Your Husband's Ex Still Carries A Torch For Him

Jenna Korf | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Jenna Korf

Having to share your partner with another woman because he had a child with her can be difficult enough, but when that woman didn't seem to get the memo that they've divorced, it can send your internal threat meter into the red zone.

3 Good Reasons the Ex-Wife Hates the Stepmother

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 11.23.2013 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

If you talk to a divorced, remarried woman long enough, guaranteed you will hear about the new stepmother or the old wife. It seems to come with the territory. Tell someone who you are a stepmother and you will be asked how you get along with the ex within the first hour.

'We Love Each One Of Them As Ours'

Posted 07.13.2013 | Divorce

With seven children between them, Keenon and Laura Stillman faced many challenges when blending their two families together. The couple, who first ...

We've Both Had a Total of 5 Weddings! Should We Have Another One?

Ann Blumenthal Jacobs | Posted 07.16.2013 | Weddings
Ann Blumenthal Jacobs

Who said the road to true love isn't sometimes bumpy? One question the women we interviewed all faced was whether or not to have yet another wedding.

The 3 Lies We Tell Ourselves About Mother's Day

Barbara Goldberg | Posted 07.08.2013 | Divorce
Barbara Goldberg

It is that dreaded time of year for stepmothers everywhere -- Mother's Day. It is reasonable that children spend Mother's Day with their mother. Meanwhile, stepmothers are left to justify why they do not care about Mother's Day.

'I Never Knew It Would Be This Hard'

Mary T. Kelly, M.A. | Posted 06.22.2013 | Divorce
Mary T. Kelly, M.A.

The feeling of being an "outsider" and wondering if it will ever go away is almost universal for every childless stepmother I've worked with.

The Worst Thing To Say To Stepmoms

Mary T. Kelly, M.A. | Posted 12.20.2013 | Divorce
Mary T. Kelly, M.A.

In over ten years of working with stepmothers, I've rarely met one who would fall under the definition of an "evil stepmother".

An Open Letter To Jada Pinkett Smith

Mary T. Kelly, M.A. | Posted 04.27.2013 | Divorce
Mary T. Kelly, M.A.

Reality is often more complicated than we'd like to admit and not every stepmother gets to have a Hollywood ending

In Praise of Stepfamilies

Janice Van Dyck | Posted 10.11.2011 | Parents
Janice Van Dyck

Stepparents have bad reputations. Just ask Cinderella and Snow White. But from my arguably unenviable position of stepmother, I'd like to talk about the better side of stepfamilies.

Why Remarry?

Nina Lorez Collins | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Nina Lorez Collins

The other day a younger friend, a woman in her twenties, called to share news of her engagement. She's been dating a great-seeming guy for about a yea...

The Holidays: How Stepfamilies Can Be Happier

Wednesday Martin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Wednesday Martin

Stepfamilies often experience extraordinary stress as the holidays--with their pressure cooker of "family" expectations--get underway. So, let go of the Three Big Myths of Stepfamily life.

Let's Stop Expecting Sandra Bullock to Be a Stepmartyr

Wednesday Martin | Posted 05.25.2011 | Entertainment
Wednesday Martin

Many women suffer from what I call Stepmartyr Syndrome--embracing the notion that they are going to make it all better for everyone, whatever the cost to them personally.

Love Stories: Is Marriage Necessary?

Wednesday Martin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Wednesday Martin

While marital and couples therapists tell us how to save our marriages, sociology, anthropology, and human behavioral ecology suggest that it isn't so much married couples as Marriage itself that's in crisis.

When And Why You Shouldn't Put The Kids First

Wednesday Martin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Wednesday Martin

Shunting the husband/wife relationship to the back burner whenever the stepchildren are around is, it turns out, a recipe for marital and step-family disaster.

Stepfamilies To Uncle Sam: Learn To Count!

Wednesday Martin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Wednesday Martin

We're hearing a lot about the new U.S. Census these days and many might wonder what, precisely, is at stake. For stepfamilies, the answer is: quite a bit.

2010: Year of the New American Family

Wednesday Martin | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Wednesday Martin

Until there is better support, public education, and understanding, here are ten research-based resolutions stepfamilies can make to usher in a new decade of stepfamily satisfaction.