With honesty comes the security to trust each other. In turn, trust allows us to enter the state of vulnerability that creates intimate space in a romantic relationship. Somewhere deep inside of all of us, we cherish this connection.
I may have experienced what others for centuries have been referring to as "love at first sight" that day in the patisserie. I'm pretty sure I don't believe in that, but it was like the minute I laid eyes on this man, I just knew he was going to change my life forever -- and he has.
Most men understand the shift in the balance of sexual power and aren't threatened by it. But there are a fair amount of men who do resent empowered women, and their attitudes -- are made publicly and frequently.
To be single at heart, I think, means that you see yourself as single. Your life may or may not include the occasional romantic relationship, but you don't aspire to live as part of a couple for the long term.
There's something troubling about the use of the word "relationship" that excludes all relationships but romantic ones. All other adult relationships aren't just excluded in the wording; they're absent from the studies.
New York Times reporter John Tierney recently described a study that supposedly showed that "single women are particularly drawn to other people's partners." But his interpretation is not supported by relevant data.