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Ronna Benjamin

How I Finally Quieted My Mind

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.21.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

My eyebrows need a good tweezing, my hair is a tangled mess of curls, and I haven't even thought about makeup. I've been wearing the same shorts for the past four days. I haven't been to the gym. Every morning I wake up in a big, overwhelming fog. And I haven't been reading. Sound like a case of depression? I understand if it does.

5 Reasons I Hate When You Are Late

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 10.05.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

"Sorry, I'm late" whether in person, by text, or by carrier pigeon, just doesn't do much for me, because you can't give me back the time I have wasted waiting for you.

Why I Decided To Learn A New Language After 50

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Last week I took my first Spanish lesson. Apparently, I am as qualified today as I was at my last language lesson almost 40 years ago. Surely, when I travel to Costa Rica this winter, I'll be able to dazzle the kids with my ability to converse with the locals.

What My Mother Had To Say About My Hair

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 09.07.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I was sipping on a glass of Chardonnay. My niece was sipping on an iced tea; my mother was drinking water -- apparently the "unfiltered" kind.

11 Reasons Why You Need Do To Wash Your Jeans More Than Once A Year

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 08.06.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Last week, Chip Bergh, the CEO of Levi Strauss & Company, caused quite a stir. In response to a question about how often we should wash our jeans, he admitted that he hadn't washed the jeans he was wearing in a year. Really, a whole year.

What The Contents Of Your Purse Say About You

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

In front of us, piled on a highly glossed wooden table, was an assortment of keys, lipsticks, mascaras, and hand creams. There was one tube of foot cream, two bottles of Advil, one bottle of Excedrin, and assorted prescription drugs. There were tea bags, nail files, perfume, hair brushes, make up, one extra large bobby pin, a dozen hair elastics, pens, and several bottles of hand lotion.

43 Things Every Woman Would Like To Say To Their Hair

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.22.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

At 50-something, my hair still seems to be the bane of my existence, and I know I am not alone.  Hair seems is big topic of conversation amongst women of all races, ethnicity, and age. But at midlife, there is a big part of me that wants to look in the mirror and say to my hair, 'enough about you already!'

25 Things I've Learned About Being A Daughter In My 50s

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.06.2014 | Women
Ronna Benjamin

My mother is fiercely independent, and if she has her way (and I know she will die trying) she will always take care of herself. Still, the mother/daughter relationship changes for us lucky ones who still have our mothers at mid-life.

What Will I Do With All That Money?

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 07.01.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

If you are a Costco shopper, you know there is no such thing as a small Costco mistake. When you buy one of Costco's oversized products, open it, use it a bit and then find you actually aren't too keen on it, you live with the consequences -- potentially for years.

I Finally Figured Out Why I'm So Tense

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.24.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I don't like anything in life that takes more than an hour and a half. I don't like my time wasted. It's hard for me to accept or tolerate delay, difficulty or annoyance without getting a little peeved. In short: I'm impatient.

The 8 Best Reasons For Swearing

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.19.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

A really good friend of mine, a well-respected lawyer, in his late fifties, was late for his daughter's swim meet. Tense and a little bit lost, he realized he was heading in the wrong direction, so he pulled into a parking lot to turn the car around. As he drove out into traffic, he cut off another driver.

10 Essentials to Help Your Kid Rent an Apartment in NYC

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

When your kid needs to find an apartment in Manhattan on a budget (our rule is it can't be more expensive than on campus housing), you can't help but get a little tense.

How Candy Crush Has Changed My Life

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

A friend asked me the other day what I was reading, and I gave her a blank look. 'Uh, I don't know.' 'What? You can't remember?' 'Right. Give me a second.' And it was then I realized that I hadn't been reading at all lately. I looked at my shoes and suddenly remembered I had somewhere to be.

Why The Wife Has To Be Thinner Than The Husband

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.03.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I think I have a problem with my husband. He is health conscious and fit and he has will power. Wouldn't that be enough to make you nuts when you don't? I am addicted to ice cream, chocolate and jelly beans. He can pass up dessert and skip dinner. With shoulder surgery this winter, he has been particularly conscientious about what he puts in his mouth.

Naked in the Locker Room: Part 2

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.20.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Within minutes, the locker room erupts with naked women and partially-dressed women screaming at each other about exhibitionists and ecological indifference. Towels are being thrown. Breasts are swinging. It's the partially clad versus the totally naked.

10 Reasons Women Should Never Go Naked At The Gym

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.20.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I was getting dressed in the locker room at my gym last week when I overheard a conversation between two ladies about the tough cardio class we had all just barely survived. One lady was in her bra and panties, the other naked, but for a towel. I looked over at them, about to commiserate on the ass-kicking, when I realized the woman in the towel looked familiar.

What You REALLY Should Say To Your Overweight Teenager

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 05.07.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Yes, I agree, talk about health is key, as is a focus away from body image and on being a good person. But the fact is, we really don't want our children to be fat -- not only because it is unhealthy, but because in our uber competitive world, a fat person is less likely to be hired, or to be asked on a date -- and yes, all of that matters. Unfortunately, what's outside matters too.

Badass Grandma

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I have a special fondness for Badass Grandmas, and truly, I hope someday to be one (side note to my children: No rush).

'Let's Just Cuddle' And 24 Other Ways To Say 'I Love You' At Midlife

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.29.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

It turns out that the average guy spends about $170 on Valentine's Day. That's a hefty sum to show the woman in your life you love, admire, and respect her. Chocolate, flowers, cards, dinner... are you looking to save a few bucks but still make a great impression?

The Friends I Keep In My Basement

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.08.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

We all have appliances we were so excited about at the time, but don't use anymore, right?  Some sit on the kitchen counter for a while as appliance architecture, before they are banished to the graveyard. Some have never been used.

Hate to Downhill? I've Found a Great Alternative

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 03.31.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

Skate skiers get to pass the slower, classic skiers, leaving them literally in their tracks, and well -- not that I'm competitive or anything -- but it's totally badass. And at fifty-something, even a little badass is a good thing.

The 25 Things That Made My Enemy List This Year

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 03.26.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

I blame this post on Richard Nixon. When I was in middle school, we learned that the Nixon administration had created an 'enemies list' -- a list of political opponents, used for the official purpose of 'screwing' Nixon's personal and political foes -- actors, government officials, journalists, academics and other citizens.

How I Successfully Stopped Snoring With One Simple Move

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 03.19.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

One morning, still a bit groggy from a sleeping pill-induced six hours of sleep, I was enjoying my first cup of coffee while reading my emails on my iPhone. I was surprised to see that Mike was sleeping in a spare bedroom, and that I had received an email from him, sent the previous evening, at 11:37 PM, about an hour after we had gone to bed.

33 Mistakes Everyone Makes In Their 50s

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 03.16.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

The following were on Cosmo's list of mistakes that everyone makes in their 20s that are also on my list at 50-something.

This Year I Resolve To Do The Impossible

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 02.25.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

That's when I realized we were about to give my mother-in-law her birthday present: a cashmere sweater. And that is when I made my first New Year's resolution: I resolve to shut the heck up.