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Russian Adoption

Impermanence: When Adoptions Fail

Mirah Riben | Posted 11.03.2014 | Impact
Mirah Riben

Adoptive parent bloggers commiserate when they find themselves in over their heads with children who they describe as not what they "bargained for." Certainly we cannot and should not force any parent to continue to care for a child they feel incapable of living with.

How to Soothe Our Pain When We Can't Help Who We Want to Help

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.29.2014 | Impact
John M. Simmons

Marina was seven and Jula was five, like my daughter-to-be. I don't know how old Jenya, Maksím, André, Dasha, Ksenya and Natasha were, but it would...

A Very Simple Explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.22.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Emily was 15 when she left her Russian orphanage to join our family and her biological younger sisters.The Russian social workers informed us that she had behavioral problems and probably even disorders. They told us that she most likely had Reactive Attachment Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. They said that we shouldn't take her into our home.

Hyphen(-)less Adoption

John M. Simmons | Posted 04.27.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

What I immediately noticed in the reunification story of Jessica Long is that there were no hyphens. I watched her parents, here in the states, talk about her family in Russia. They didn't talk about her meeting her birth-mother. I never heard them say birth-father.

I Believe in Paradoxes

John M. Simmons | Posted 04.22.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Like any parents, we taught our children that they didn't hate their siblings; they loved them. And love didn't allow aggressive behavior. Perhaps we would have been wiser to teach them to control their anger rather than attempting to prove that paradoxes couldn't exist.

Russia Is not Always As Cold As We Think

John M. Simmons | Posted 04.09.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

If Sochi is cold enough for Winter Olympic snow events, it's barely cold enough. In fact, the city is more known for subtropical beach getaways than w...

Film Becomes Tool For Advocacy Over Russian Adoption Ban

Tina Traster | Posted 07.31.2013 | Impact
Tina Traster

I'm hoping The Dark Matter of Love will be seen by as many viewers as possible who will feel compelled to put pressure on American and Russian officials to reach a compromise, as least for the in-process families.

Who Should We Stop From Adopting?

John M. Simmons | Posted 07.25.2013 | Impact
John M. Simmons

You know, we used to tell children to "grow up." I'm not sure that's good advice any more. If my children need to pick a side where adults argue at the expense of children, as a requirement of growing up, then I hope mine never do.

New Documentary Takes Us Inside Russian Adoption: The Dark Matter of Love

Tina Traster | Posted 06.23.2013 | Impact
Tina Traster

The Dark Matter of Love's message is ultimately this: Children, no matter how difficult the transition, are better off with families than they are languishing in orphanages.

No Charges For Adoptive Parents In Russian Boy's Death

AP | BETSY BLANEY | Posted 05.18.2013 | HuffPost Live 321

ODESSA, Texas — Prosecutors will not charge a Texas couple in the death of a 3-year-old boy they adopted from Russia, a case that has become the...

Adoptive American Parents of Russian Children Don't Deserve The Heat

Tina Traster | Posted 05.15.2013 | Parents
Tina Traster

A few weeks ago, a filmmaker for Radio Free Europe spent the day with my family at our home in upstate New York documenting our "ordinary" moments. Olga Loginova, the filmmaker, wanted to show the world there are "successful Russian adoptions."

Russians March To Protest Law Banning Adoptions By Americans

AP | LYNN BERRY | Posted 01.14.2013 | World

MOSCOW -- Thousands of people marched through Moscow on Sunday to protest Russia's new law banning Americans from adopting Russian children, a far big...

The Wrong Way to Do Human Rights

Simon Lester | Posted 03.13.2013 | World
Simon Lester

Did anyone really believe Russia would welcome this? Human rights are good, and the rule of law is good, and healthy societies are good.

Are Children Today’s Iron Ore? Russia’s Adoption Ban and International Diplomacy

Yasmine Ergas | Posted 03.10.2013 | World
Yasmine Ergas

As the lives of Americans -- and almost everyone else -- become increasingly transnational, states will realize that they can negotiate over children, students, lovers, the ailing and the elderly just as profitably as they have always done over arms and chicken feed.

A Silver Lining to the Ban on Russia-to-U.S. Adoptions

John M. Simmons | Posted 03.06.2013 | Parents
John M. Simmons

In 2005, my wife, Amy, and I adopted three children from Russia. As we were wrapping up those adoptions, we saw a document indicating that our new daughters had older siblings. It took us another year and a half to locate them, but they are now part of our family of eleven, too.

Putin and the Orphans

Jeff Danziger | Posted 02.27.2013 | World
Jeff Danziger

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I Saved My Daughter, Twice

Tina Traster | Posted 02.18.2013 | Parents
Tina Traster

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt make it look easy. They adopt kids from all corners of the world and the media broadcasts images of perfect Kodak moments. They'd have you believing families bond and blend instantaneously. They don't. Not always.

Putting It Out There: The Pleasures and Perils of Memoir

Tina Traster | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Tina Traster

Writing this story began as an exercise in catharsis. The work of a writer trying to understand what had happened. A snippet of memoir that began in a writing workshop and evolved into a saleable essay.

To Russia, with Love?

Elaine Hall | Posted 05.25.2011 | Media
Elaine Hall

I do not condone placing an eight year-old boy on an airplane by himself, but it seems to me that Torry Hansen may have done the best she could with the limited options and tools that she had.

Return to Sender

David Rudich | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
David Rudich

Who leaves a child alone to fly halfway around the world to strangers? What Torry Hanson did is child abandonment and abuse, and something has to be done so that it doesn't happen again.

Give Children a Chance Before Abandoning

Suzan Song | Posted 05.25.2011 | Impact
Suzan Song

Though most adoption agencies work to support families and children, there are outliers that do not. Mental health treatment can help.

Artyom Savelyev: to Russia Without Love

Tamar Abrams | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Tamar Abrams

The image is haunting: a little boy, confused and alone in a yellow jacket, at the center of an international incident. But mostly -- a little boy alone.