The thing is, it takes a great deal of energy and effort to combat "hot" emotional impulses with cognitive cool thinking. Plus, suppressing emotions is stressful and takes a toll physically and emotionally.
A vigilant focus when swimming with sharks is essential for survival. Paying attention to what matters in life is essential too -- part of this is recognizing that first impressions aren't always correct.
Truly listening involves hearing what the person is saying and also paying attention to their non-verbal communication. Respond by paraphrasing and reflecting on the conversation to move it forward -- it shows them you genuinely care about what they have to say.
One person might say, "I am laying bricks," a second might say, "I am building a wall," and a third might say, "I am creating a cathedral." All three share the same day-to-day labor, it is the perspective that differs.
Indeed, some people are so magnetic that we feel a gravitational pull towards them. We describe this quality as "charisma" and most people think of it as something you are either born with or not. In fact, charisma is a skill that can be learned.
Modern conveniences like vacuum cleaners, super-turbo hairdryers and electronic juicers make life easier. The irony is that everyone feels pressed for time. The following recommendations are not going to add more hours to your day but they may alter how you think about and value time.
Productive people know that mornings are a great time for getting things done. And science shows that willpower is greatest in the morning. So take advantage of it and do the things that require self-discipline, like going to the gym or doing your taxes, early in the day.
In other words, flow is the opposite of feeling bored, disconnected or meaningless -- all too common afflictions of modern life. Experts believe there is a direct relationship between flow experiences and well-being.
Across the board, women who report consistent poor sleep had increased signs of aging; low self-perceived attractiveness. Other studies show that others perceive people who are sleep deprived as less healthy and less attractive.
Dr. Samantha Boardman, a clinical instructor in psychiatry and public health and an assistant attending psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical College, wrote a column for "The Tory Blog" on why sleep is so important and how to get more of it.