People need privacy. We need our own little secrets, our hot steamy affairs, our dirty chats with perfect strangers. It helps keep life in balance. But a relationship needs trust and openness. Keeping secrets on your cellphone is too easy.
I've realized that many friends and clients quietly abandoned hook-up apps. While the voluntary withdrawal is justified by slightly different reasons; there seems to be a common complaint: a high level of stress associated with usage.
I'm over it, Scruff'd Up, Groun'd down to a pulp. Sick of watching the pretty boys win the CraigsLust lottery and me sitting at home with a copy of Janis Ian's, At Seventeen. So I'm doing something about it.
One of the things I love most about our digital, global age is the ability to connect with people around the world so easily. If you don't use social apps as a sexual hookup tool but a genuine place to make new friends, you can meet the most interesting people!
Most of my young gay friends are uninterested in the history of my membership in ACT UP, but a few, like Jake, are curious, even insistent. I answer their questions and try to explain what it was like to be 25 in the East Village in 1989.
It's Saturday night, and I'm at a Silver Lake gay bar with some friends. Despite the packed room, my friend Zack is fixed to his iPhone. Our friends' nudges and pokes can't shift his eagle eyes from the warm, orange glow. What bothers us is Zack's inability to interact with his surroundings.
Beards are back in fashion around the world. To be sure, beards have gone through many fashions. Just think of the handlebar mustaches of the 19th century, the clone look of the 1970s or the permanent growth fancied by the bear community. But I think this time is different.
As a community, we need to be more aware of STIs. We should each make sure to have at least one close friend to talk to about our health record, and I certainly hope each and every one of us has a doctor with whom we are comfortable talking about our sexual experiences.