Self Abandonment

While no one deliberately seeks out someone who is closed, negative and needy, if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life. If you want a loving relationship, then you need to do the work of learning how to take emotional responsibility

It is unrealistic to expect compassion from others when we are abandoning ourselves. If you want to experience the power of being "grokked" by others, you first need to "grok" yourself!

Rather than judge ourselves for blaming -- which most of us do at times -- why not look at what the blaming is covering up and learn to lovingly manage the feelings that we are covering up and avoiding with blaming?

A patient of mine realized that if he wanted to attract a loving and caring woman who took responsibility for herself, he would have to learn to be loving and caring toward himself.

Why do we blame ourselves and others? What is the payoff?

Frequently, when I start to work with a new client, they believe that loving their self is selfish. Nothing could be further from the truth.

As adults, our own well-being is our personal responsibility. Do you abandon yourself, making others responsible for you, and then feel abandoned by others when they leave you or don't take responsibility for you?