By pausing and offering a genuine compliment, you invite a two-way experiment in vulnerability, both to you and whoever is giving or receiving the compliment. It's one thing to ask for a compliment. It's another to receive it fully without deflection. When we are vulnerable we let our guard down to connect and fulfill one of our deepest human needs.
Here is your lesson, parents. If you fight, if you denigrate each other, if you have conflicting sets of rules and, in the worst case scenario, you plot and plan to turn your child against the other parent, you may wind up driving your child to a place where they believe they will have more stability and certainty.
The conscious change was critical to my survival. It made me a more effective, happy, and high-performing employee. It required me to work more efficiently. It accelerated and enhanced my job performance. And it enabled me to finally and happily live, reigniting my light and sending me on an upward trajectory.