"Live from the inside out." That's my motto for 2013. I have put the kibosh on following social convention and fulfilling other's expectations. Living in a box of someone else's making leaves little room for sharing your gifts with the world.
Emotional eating only becomes a problem when it's overused to cope with or avoid feelings. If you feel that your emotional connections to food are causing problems for you, the following suggestions will help bring emotional eating back into balance.
Recently I had a day where I went from being unhappy with what I saw in the mirror to loving what I was seeing within hours. Obviously I don't think that my body actually physically changed in such a short time frame, but it sure felt like it.
This five-minute routine is like doing a set of push-ups for your brain -- no props necessary except pen and paper, Blackberry or your writing utensil of choice. Results will be guaranteed if you're honest in your answers, diligent with your form and you practice in the right setting.
Going with the flow is easy, especially when that current feels great. The challenge is learning how to drop into a positive flow when half-swept away in a riptide of epic misfortune. No, life, I'm not waving. I'm drowning.
Intuition offers a direct line to your life force, and also, as I experience it, to a divine intelligence. We can't afford to remain deaf to intuition's messages. Its expertise is energy; its job is to know every nuance of what makes you tick.
The jig is up. There is no one specific eating plan or program that will work for everyone. There's no diet or exercise program that will save us all. We all look, feel and live differently, so what makes us think that we can get healthy using the same template?
I do this all the time, explain away a person's appearance and actions. I try really hard to give people the benefit of the doubt when they snap at their kids in public, cut me off in traffic, refuse to give up their seat to an old person on the train.
If you suppress a goal you really want to achieve out of fear, it can create added stress. I have learned through much trial and error to take the risk. Here are some of the ways I have learned to move forward -- despite my fears.
In October of last year, I was no longer able to deny a long-developing internal shift, and promptly left my rather high-powered career to figure out what my next passion was. Walking out of the office that day with no real plan, I'd never been more scared. Now, I've never been more liberated.
A soulmate walks in. At the worst possible time -- or so you may think. Your soul knows it's exactly the right time. Your soul knows it's time for a change, which sooner or later you won't be able to deny.
Rejection tends to turn us inward in a negative way -- causing us to feel unworthy, flawed, not good enough, unlovable, frustrated, confused, angry, sad, etc. -- which can get us painfully bogged down in paralyzing self criticism.
As the saying goes, "The roots create the fruits." This means that it's our job to focus on our own growth, development, and internal transformation -- and in so doing, we put ourselves in the best possible position to create the kind of change we truly want.
There are two techniques to help you quiet mental clutter and become more powerful. Before a high-stakes interaction, go into the bathroom and spend two minutes in front of the mirror doing the following.
The simple truth is that happiness is not found in having all the love, security and recognition you can possibly have. It is found by balancing those three ideals based on who you are, based on your own needs.
We are trained to be grateful for getting the things we want, but we can and need to become equally grateful for the things that we don't get, and the wonderful and unexpected opportunities and gifts that those absences bestow upon us.
Remember, the greatest form of brainwashing is simply repetition. For some people, the repetition is within their own inner talk and thus, over and over, the negative is reinforced again and again. You can choose to stop that today, and I urge you to do so.