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Self Compassion

Why Women Need a New Bedtime Story

Amy Tirion | Posted 12.23.2014 | Women
Amy Tirion

Unlike the playful books we read to children, women's bedtime stories tend to be full of self-judgment. I Should, I Need to Be, and I Wish replace the chapters from childhood books that used to transport us to new places of possibility.

How to Tap Into Inner Clarity for Your 2015 Vision

Kerry Vollherbst | Posted 12.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Kerry Vollherbst

Once you see where you're shape-shifting to satisfy your ideas about other peoples' desires, you get the awareness that your reality is made up of choices that you are making, not someone else. The beautiful, liberating news is that you are free to choose again.

Is Self-Compassion More Important Than Self-Esteem?

Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D. | Posted 12.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Steven C. Hayes, Ph.D.

Is it important to love yourself? It seems that depends on how you do it. Few concepts in popular psychology have gotten more attention over the las...

The Importance of Loving Your Self

Osi Mizrahi | Posted 11.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Osi Mizrahi

Treat your self with kindness and love, and you will find that same kindness and love surrounding you. You will eventually notice the negative behavior occurring around you and choose to remove yourself from harmful relationships.

Why We Think It's OK to Call Yourself Fat

Christine Arylo | Posted 11.17.2014 | Women
Christine Arylo

Being compassionate with yourself is all about giving yourself the loving truth. Not sugar coating or denying that a change is needed, but delivering the message in a way that you would talk to your child or to your best friend -- with love.

3 Steps to Experience the Perfect Imperfect Moment

Lisa Firestone | Posted 11.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Life is too precious to waste it lost in our heads, evaluating ourselves, one step removed from our own experience. We can more fully live our life by paying attention to our senses and being willing to feel what we are actually experiencing at any given moment in time.

Omitting the 'Obnoxious Roommate'

Naomi Firestone | Posted 10.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Naomi Firestone

Once I understood the alien point of view toward myself, I had to expel it! It has been extremely helpful to make the voice conscious.

When the Bad News Comes, Be There and Remain Faithful

Martha Nelson | Posted 12.25.2014 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

This is the final part of a four-part series on death, and life, and decisions we face going forward into our final twenty or so years. (For the first...

Compassion 101: Lessons From My Son

Beth Frede | Posted 12.22.2014 | Parents
Beth Frede

Where can you let yourself be just a little bit more? Where are you holding on so tightly in your life that compassion can barely squeeze through? And what's possible if you let go, just a little bit, that's not possible at the moment?

Letting It Go

Wendy Reese | Posted 11.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Wendy Reese

Yoga is a practice, one that helps us live more balanced, flexible, and strong off the mat. Some days are easier than others, for sure. The trick is to keep showing up, softening, and practicing the art of yoga.

5 Science-Backed Reasons It's Important To Love Yourself

The Huffington Post | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 10.01.2014 | Healthy Living

When it comes to close relationships, by now we've probably got this whole "best friend" thing down pat. We give them a confidence boost when they don...

Love Lessons

Dr. Samineh I. Shaheem | Posted 11.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Samineh I. Shaheem

No matter how you choose to define love, one fact remains clear: Love can be highly addictive. We are talking about passionate love, the beginning rush of emotions; the wave that floods us when we first fall in love.

5 Ways to Overcome Overachievement Disorder

Amanda Smear Baudier | Posted 11.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Amanda Smear Baudier

We all have a unique purpose to unfold in this lifetime and the sooner we stop trying to one up one another, the sooner we'll find the path to that which will truly bring us joy.

The Best Birthday Gift You'll Ever Receive: Self-Compassion

Ellen Dolgen | Posted 11.12.2014 | Fifty
Ellen Dolgen

One thing is for sure -- charting your own destiny can be extremely liberating providing you first lighten up -- on yourself! Have some self-compassion.

Outsmarting the Fear of Failure

Martin Snepp | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Martin Snepp

For so many of us, the fear of failure is crippling. It stands in the way of us achieving what we really want in life. With our pride at stake, many of us prefer to take the easy, safe option. Perhaps we save face. But at what cost?

Lindsay Holmes

8 Ways To Tell If You're A Truly Compassionate Person

HuffingtonPost.com | Lindsay Holmes | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living

With so many self-help tools and research aimed at helping us be more joyful, it's pretty obvious that the pursuit of happiness is in vogue -- but wha...

5 Ways to Let Go of Perfectionism and Still Excel at Anything

Vee Somphon | Posted 08.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Vee Somphon

You don't have to play team sports to know that winning is the biggest high, and if you love chasing after it, some experts might call that an addiction. That addiction has a name, and its name is perfectionism.

What Really Creates Emotional Intimacy

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The more we practice staying connected with our spiritual guidance and our own feelings, the more we create inner and relationship safety.

The Best-Kept Secret About Feeling Undeserving

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 08.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

Reclaiming our deservedness may be a gift to ourselves, to future generations as well as to our ancestors. When compassion replaces ruthlessness, the benefits are unlimited.

Is There a Cure for Narcissism?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we emphasize compassion over esteem and measure our successes in terms of what we give as opposed to what we get, we build a solid sense of self that can leave us feeling less stress and more satisfaction in our lives. We can overcome insecurities and accomplish much more. And when we fall short, we can take a positive and resilient attitude that ensures better outcomes in the future.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.

The Path to Self-Compassion

Literally, Darling | Posted 06.30.2014 | Women
Literally, Darling

I am not saying you should excuse yourself for bad behavior, but you should never let your mistakes take over. You should have an immense amount of self-love because you are your greatest ally. You know your own heart better than anyone.

Own Self-Care: It's Simple -- And Essential

Joanne Heyman | Posted 06.28.2014 | Business
Joanne Heyman

Integrity is, at its core, being honest and authentic. While there's certainly value in the search for "work-life balance," what may be more productive is finding a healthy sense of integration among the different facets of our lives.

To Be or Not to Be Judgmental -- That Is the Question

Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC | Posted 06.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

We will need to remain aware of the status of our self-esteem as well as holding compassion for others and ourselves. We can then find our way out of the knots of hierarchy, honoring of our uniqueness and the uniqueness of others.

We Are All Doing the Best We Can: A Lesson in Compassion

MotherWoman | Posted 06.15.2014 | Parents
MotherWoman

By Malia Gaffney One of my greatest challenges as a mother (and as a human) is to have compassion for myself. When I fly off the handle at the slight...