To me, loving presence means being connected to our inner nature of love and allowing it to radiate out to others. Knowing and experiencing our loving presence is one important outcome of mindfulness practice that can help us gain freedom from fearful people pleasing.
Our thoughts and emotions are our own. No one has the power to create our thoughts or emotions or change them. We are our own captain of how we react to situations or internalize them. Certainly people can influence us, but ultimately, we make the final decision.
So often we cause ourselves unnecessary distress because of the way we interpret what others have said or done. We may become anxious, sad, angry, resentful, or insecure because of someone else's words or actions, or even their silence and inaction.
Self compassion can be a rocky road at first, like most changes are. But, once I started taking care of myself and sharing some of my son's needs, it had a positive effect not only for myself, but for our entire family.
Before even attempting to do any practice it's important to understand that your practice is not a performance. Each practice doesn't need to be evaluated about whether it was a "good" meditation or a "bad" meditation.
If we can look deeply into what most of us hope for, I believe we will find ourselves looking for understanding, kindness, well-being and love. We believe rightly that those things will make our lives better. Try the exercise of bringing those things into your life.
If you must put a label on someone, tell them they have a tendency to be successful. Tell them that they will excel. Tell them that they are wonderful. Tell them that they are beautiful. Tell them that they shine.
Our survival instinct -- fight, flight, or freeze -- doesn't naturally create space for mercy and compassion in day-to-day living. The ego, encapsulated in the Buddhist notion Noah describes, gets agitated by the open heart that is necessary for forgiveness.
With each human thought and action, we either activate or deactivate our higher being. The more our thoughts and actions are in line with our most passionate and purposeful vision for our lives, the more we activate our higher being, and the faster we manifest the "all" in our lives.
School bullying statistics in the United States show that about one in four kids in the U.S. are bullied on a regular basis. For these kids, the thought of soon going back to school, won't bring about happy and cheering faces.
Many of the couples we know who are living deeply fulfilling lives grew up in situations that were far from ideal, and some were downright wretched. So, you might ask, what then are the critical factors that determine the likelihood of relationship success?
If you were not well-loved as a child, or you didn't have parents or other caregivers who role-modeled loving themselves, it may be hard to know what it means to love yourself and difficult to know how to do it.