The good news is that you can take back control, no matter how fast your merry-go-round might be spinning. The better news is that you can start today. It begins, quite simply, with your choice, and just one small step.

If you find it difficult to celebrate your own achievements, you may have a tendency to sometimes be self-critical, lonely, and perhaps a little resentful. I can say this because I've lived this myself. Here are some tips to embrace your own achievements fully, without qualification.

I've come to understand that language impacts thought, and vice versa. Without owning the word "no," and all the other language under what I like to think of as the "No Umbrella," I was denying myself the conviction and power that comes with it.

I decided to dip my toe back into the water... and belly-flopped instead. I had set myself up to fail because I had set unreasonable expectations in place.

There are so many articles written every single day about health and nutrition. There is this diet and that diet and one philosophy after another about what to eat and when to eat it and how far apart to space meals and good fats and bad fats -- and the list goes on.

They are keeping you from loving yourself unconditionally. They are a crutch that keeps you hobbling through your dating life. They are the thick, wool coat that insulates you from being left out in the cold.

Having self-love makes you more resilient and able to bounce back from a stumble. It really is the cornerstone to allowing your dreams to come alive, to attracting healthy relationships, and to living a full life.

Because you're human, it's normal to formulate opinions based on information you've accumulated up until the present moment. It's natural and necessary in certain situations -- but not when it comes to your life and who you are.

Each experience you have in life is a lesson, especially those that are most damaging to you. Once you forgive yourself and others, you give yourself the gift of emotional freedom.

In a flash, negativity can spin you into a tizzy, your center blown to smithereens. There are four major components of emotions: their biology, spirituality, energetic power, and psychology. Together, these components create an elegant portrait of your emotional self.

Today is a very special day. It has never happened before and it will never happen again. And we have no idea what will come next. What a great day just to be here. To show up now. The perfect day to let the past rest where it is and let the future take care of itself.

This type of compassion is not an easy one, and not everyone can comprehend or understand it. It takes an expanded mind to be able to go far enough to feel another person's point of being and to accept it as is.

You are enough just as you are. Dare to be vulnerable, and laugh at the tender and amusing moments we all share in this undulating dance of our humanity.

How do we not get lost in looking for "success in all the wrong places," and end up with achievement but not fulfillment? How do we experience wealth as abundance in our being, not only in our bank accounts?

Everyone lives with weaknesses and insecurities. Life is too rich with variety for this not to be the case. Our task is to accept ourselves in the vast sea of life's storms so that we anchor the truth of who we are amid the strong tide.

As we age, we may get tired of taking care of everyone else, and never getting our own needs met. Can we learn how to be different? Can we change?

Weight loss by criticism is more than TV reality, it's the American way. If you want your body to be all that it can be, you can enlist a relentless trainer or do the job yourself. After all, you are your own worst critic. Here's the problem with berating yourself thin: It only gets you so far.

I discovered, as we each can, that our aim can never be too high, despite the challenges we must overcome. So what can we do to tune into ourselves, take care of ourselves, aim our highest, and prioritize and organize to become our most aware, passionate, and successful?

All relationships have a system. Some work well and some don't. Since I have been working with relationships for the last 44 years, I've become very attuned to what kind of a system two people have between them.

"Whether you're keeping a journal or writing as a meditation, it's the same thing. What's important is you're having a relationship with your mind. We live in discursive thinking, and what we want to do is drop below to first thoughts, which is wild mind and true energy."

Live enough days on this planet and you're going to face some big stuff and plenty of little annoyances. There are bound to be whole days where things don't seem to go your way. What are you going to do with that?

As I look back with gratitude and compassion, there are many things I want to tell my 20-something self. Here are some of the things I would say to her.

"The intention is to feel compassion toward yourself so there's less identification with the self that is disgusted with looking bad and more of an inhabiting of the awareness that is observing with kindness."