What are we afraid will happen if we stop "shoulding" all over ourselves? We have been taught, mistakenly, that if we don't "should" ourselves into action, we will become like those giant sloths that hang on trees -- inert. If not controlled, we would be unkind, ungrateful, un-generous, unproductive and every other "un" you can think of.
By By Jancee Dunn Recently at a party, I was introduced to a woman who looked vaguely familiar. When I said "nice to meet you," she coolly remind...