These studies show us the cost of not forgiving others can be physically taxing on us. It seems like the world appeared more daunting to our participants who had recalled an incident where they had not forgiven their perpetrator.

Five "I" questions: Identify, identity, immediate, intention, inside. Your own I-5 to travel through states of consciousness.

Sitting there at the kitchen table covered with coffee cups and an ashtray full of cigarette butts, I began to slowly comprehend that working on my problems wasn't the same as healing them. "You didn't forgive him." Those four words changed my life.

We are deeply imprinted by the suffering we have caused others. In the Buddhist teachings, such sensitivity can be intelligent and healthy -- it plays an important role in awakening and freeing our hearts.

Many think self-love is just a form of narcissism, but the purest love knows no conceit. From a spiritual perspective, loving the self communicates humility and gratitude to whatever force gives us life.

I had something happen that I think will change me forever, and I felt compelled to share it with you even though it is pretty personal.

But how do you move from resentment, upset and blame into acceptance, understanding and true forgiveness? The answer lies in forgiving yourself. Not forgiving yourself for an action, thought, word or deed aimed at another, but forgiving yourself for having judged yourself in the first place.

It's important to acknowledge mistakes, feel appropriate remorse and learn from them so they don't happen again. But most people keep beating themselves up way past the point of usefulness.

Once we move into midlife, which I define as the years between 40 and 65, it's more important than ever to have and actively pursue meaningful goals.

What purpose does forgiving serve? And how do you forgive? The "how" was what I asked myself some 16 years ago, as I went into my divorce feeling emotionally distraught.

I have thought a lot about self-forgiveness recently. It's a topic that keeps coming up, and I have come to think that it is perhaps the hardest type of forgiveness of all.

I began to check in with myself about how and when I am actually saying "yes" to my life or "no" to my life on a daily basis. I was astounded by all the subtle and obvious ways that I was spewing negativity against myself.

I'm suggesting that instead of beating yourself up for "failing" again to stick to your diet or plan, you rejoice that you overdid it. You see, the key to eating success lies in our so-called "failures."

Attentional blindness is affecting millions who are looking but not seeing. Looking for the lost keys and they're right in your hands? Five steps to get your life back on track.