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Self Hatred

One Thing We're Missing When We Talk About Suicide

Ross Szabo | Posted 09.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Ross Szabo

In that moment I realized there was a huge part of me that I hadn't been working on in all of my years of therapy. It was an obvious piece of my cycles of dysfunction, but I was too consumed by my symptoms to see it. Through deep, heaving sobs I finally understood that I hated myself.

4 Things We Must Change to Stop Self-Sabotaging

Lisa Firestone | Posted 09.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.

Gynecomastia and My Traumatic Day at the Beach

Lorne Jaffe | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Lorne Jaffe

It took 10 years post-gynecomastia surgery for me to go to the beach and take off my shirt because I still felt those now phantom breasts and stares.

Should You Listen to Your Best Friend?

Alexis Sclamberg | Posted 09.15.2014 | Women
Alexis Sclamberg

What if we could really be mirrors for each other -- and believe the truths that our greatest friends reflected back to us?

Recovery Expressions That Blew My Mind

Anna David | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Anna David

Sitting in meetings, or just talking to people outside of them, I'd hear stuff that some could say was were nearly cliché-like in its simplicity but it made so much sense that I couldn't help repeating it to nearly everyone I came into contact with.

National Eating Disorders Awareness Week

Kate Fridkis | Posted 04.29.2014 | Women
Kate Fridkis

I catch myself hating the flabby, flailing, squishy parts of my body as though they are rotten. As though they are an alien parasite from a bad horror movie infesting my good, clean, true, thinner body.

Why Feeling Competitive Is A Good Thing

Lisa Firestone | Posted 11.24.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Competitive feelings are an indication of what we want, and acknowledging what we want is key to getting to know ourselves.

Why My Body Image Issues Are Not a 'FIrst World' Problem

Jillian Lauren | Posted 11.17.2013 | Women
Jillian Lauren

Every time I talk about body image issues, I can preemptively hear the charges of "first world problems" being leveled at me. It's a popular argument these days and I'm not convinced it's a useful one.

Why Diets Fail: 7 Things You Should Know (Part 2)

David Bedrick | Posted 10.12.2013 | Healthy Living
David Bedrick

Our bodies are intelligent. While we spend much of our time trying to get our bodies to conform to our desires, we actually need to spend more time having our desires conform to the wisdom of our bodies.

Why Diets Fail: 7 Things You Should Know (Part 1)

David Bedrick | Posted 10.07.2013 | Healthy Living
David Bedrick

Through my research and work with clients, I have learned seven essential insights about people who pursue a weight loss goal. In this three-part series, I discuss those insights and begin answering the question no doubt on many of your minds: What to do instead of diet?

Echoes of Cosby in Don Lemon's Call For Blacks to Clean up Their Act

Darron T. Smith, Ph.D. | Posted 10.05.2013 | Black Voices
Darron T. Smith, Ph.D.

This is not to say that Mr. Lemon is completely wrong, and that blacks (and all humans) should not strive to do better. The problem arises when this is taken out of context.

Let Go of Your Past to Become a Better Parent

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.19.2013 | Parents
Lisa Firestone

There are countless methods of raising children, and many of them are perfectly healthy. Yet, no matter how many books we read, rules we make, or goals we set, there is one thing that will impact our children above all else, and that is how we feel within ourselves.

Don't Sabotage Your New Year's Resolution Efforts Before You've Even Started: 6 Simple Steps

Ann Rasmussen | Posted 03.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Ann Rasmussen

If we come at New Year's resolutions with a teeth-gritted determination to change, we inevitably defeat ourselves. Why? Because when we assume a fighting stance, bracing ourselves against temptations, we actually limit the resources that we bring to our challenge.

'I Hope You No That Of Yourself'

Jane Ratcliffe | Posted 02.19.2013 | Fifty
Jane Ratcliffe

That little girl's words -- I hope you no that of yourself -- have stayed with me. Over the ten or so years since she gave me that card, I've found myself passing along her message to more than one person.

I Hate L.A. LOL

Leighton Woodhouse | Posted 01.27.2013 | Los Angeles
Leighton Woodhouse

To make it even easier for future writers to regurgitate the I Hate L.A. schtick, here's a template blog post on Los Angeles. As long as they don't use it more than twice a year, it should feel fresh and new every time.

We All Have Buddha Nature: Uncover Yours

Tara Brach | Posted 12.14.2012 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

While all humans feel ashamed of weakness and afraid of rejection, our Western culture is a breeding ground for the kind of shame and self-hatred the Dalai Lama couldn't comprehend.

How The 'Man Crisis' Impacts Women

Posted 07.23.2012 | Women

Hugo Schwyzer | Role/Reboot Hugo Schwyzer responds to a recent op-ed that attempts to assign blame for the growing number of women suffering from b...

Reflections On Self-Hatred And Relationships

Wade Davis II | Posted 06.18.2012 | Gay Voices
Wade Davis II

After my last Huffington Post piece, "Black, Gay, and Suspicious?" I received several humbling requests from people who wanted to read a follow-up elaborating more on the subject of my internalized racism and the way it had potentially shaped my dating choices.

We Pay Too Much For Beauty -- And I Don't Mean Money

Dori Hartley | Posted 10.22.2011 | Women
Dori Hartley

As one who has seen firsthand what some women will put themselves through in order to achieve self-improvement, I have come to discover that the real price paid has nothing to do with money.

You're Black? How Boring

Posted 10.05.2011 | Home

About once a month, I have a conversation that—after the initial introductions are made and small talk is in full swing—goes something along these...

How To Lose Your Addiction

Srinivasan Pillay | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Srinivasan Pillay

Addictions are a double-edged sword. They offer a form of comfort that, unfortunately, does not last and often leads to pain and discomfort. If we know this, why do we repeat harmful actions over and over again.

Why Seeking To Be Perfect Never Works

Soren Gordhamer | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Soren Gordhamer

While I have nothing against cool clothes, exercise, and health drinks, let's get one thing straight: perfection is something that exists inside us, never from the outside.