Stopping ourselves from hating ourselves starts with claiming the responsibility of being our own active witnesses: shocked, as witnesses are, at first. Then jolted into motion. Bold. We have someone to save. And yes, someone to save him or her from.
Is self-loathing -- or at least stark, scathing self-criticism -- a required personality trait for novelists? Well, it's certainly a useful tool for probing the depths of human possibility. Here are ten examples of bestselling novels whose characters struggle with low self-esteem.
Never flirt with another guy when you're on a dinner date. It's rude and tacky and reinforces the stereotype that gay men are pigs. Do the respectable thing and follow him into the bathroom for a quickie when your date's ordering dessert or paying the check.
Every time I talk about body image issues, I can preemptively hear the charges of "first world problems" being leveled at me. It's a popular argument these days and I'm not convinced it's a useful one.
Facebook was not designed to be a divine oracle. It's supposed to be fun. It's your own personalized tabloid news feed, except it's people spreading gossip about themselves. Which in itself is laughable. Keep that in mind and you'll be just fine.
I won't burden you with the details that led to this highly improbable shame-fest. Just let me say that when the Famous Beautiful Woman climbed into my Jeep and went to fasten her seatbelt, I knew that the time had come for me to back out of my parking space.
Nothing could make me feel closer to you than a wedding day that's easy -- and all ours. There's something very real and permanent about a big day that's actually small, where what's most memorable about the celebration is not the fancy menu or the decor... but the love.
In my work with my clients, I've often wondered why some people jump right in to learning and growing and take off with it, while others seem to keep getting stuck. I've discovered that harboring a shameful secret is one of the reasons.