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Self Loathing

Gynecomastia and My Traumatic Day at the Beach

Lorne Jaffe | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Lorne Jaffe

It took 10 years post-gynecomastia surgery for me to go to the beach and take off my shirt because I still felt those now phantom breasts and stares.

Are You Perpetrating Crimes Against Yourself?

Anneli Rufus | Posted 08.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Anneli Rufus

Stopping ourselves from hating ourselves starts with claiming the responsibility of being our own active witnesses: shocked, as witnesses are, at first. Then jolted into motion. Bold. We have someone to save. And yes, someone to save him or her from.

#LowSelfies: A New Healing Strategy for the Insecure

Anneli Rufus | Posted 08.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Anneli Rufus

In my new book, Unworthy: How to Stop Hating Yourself, I call self-loathing a secret epidemic. One thing about us, the afflicted: We don't take selfie...

Once Upon a Time, There Was Self-Loathing

Anneli Rufus | Posted 07.23.2014 | Books
Anneli Rufus

Is self-loathing -- or at least stark, scathing self-criticism -- a required personality trait for novelists? Well, it's certainly a useful tool for probing the depths of human possibility. Here are ten examples of bestselling novels whose characters struggle with low self-esteem.

10 Major Motion Pictures About Low Self-Esteem

Anneli Rufus | Posted 07.13.2014 | Entertainment
Anneli Rufus

One reason we watch movies is that they tell us our own stories in the guise of fictional characters wearing, say, boxing trunks or togas -- and if mo...

Notes From a Self-Loathing, Narcissistic, Hateful, Shallow Gay Man... Because That's What Readers Insist I Am

David Toussaint | Posted 07.09.2014 | Gay Voices
David Toussaint

Never flirt with another guy when you're on a dinner date. It's rude and tacky and reinforces the stereotype that gay men are pigs. Do the respectable thing and follow him into the bathroom for a quickie when your date's ordering dessert or paying the check.

5 Superstars Who Have Talked About Their Low Self-Esteem

Anneli Rufus | Posted 04.14.2014 | GPS for the Soul
Anneli Rufus

It's easy to assume that beautiful, talented, successful superstars have high self-esteem and feel great about themselves. But all the speculation abo...

Does Death Raise Our Self-Esteem?

Anneli Rufus | Posted 01.23.2014 | GPS for the Soul
Anneli Rufus

Does our self-esteem rise after we die? I ask this question because, sitting at the deathbed of someone who loathed herself, whose tagline was Whatev...

Why My Body Image Issues Are Not a 'FIrst World' Problem

Jillian Lauren | Posted 11.17.2013 | Women
Jillian Lauren

Every time I talk about body image issues, I can preemptively hear the charges of "first world problems" being leveled at me. It's a popular argument these days and I'm not convinced it's a useful one.

How To Keep Facebook In Perspective

meQuilibrium | Posted 10.23.2013 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

Facebook was not designed to be a divine oracle. It's supposed to be fun. It's your own personalized tabloid news feed, except it's people spreading gossip about themselves. Which in itself is laughable. Keep that in mind and you'll be just fine.

Top 3 Reasons My Sex Life Is Gone with the Wind

Katie Schwartz | Posted 10.09.2013 | Comedy
Katie Schwartz

On Facebook, a friend posted the following, "If you were to liken your sex life to a movie title, what would it be? Without hesitation, my response was, Gone with the Wind.

Finding Reverse

Waldo Mellon | Posted 11.10.2012 | Comedy
Waldo Mellon

I won't burden you with the details that led to this highly improbable shame-fest. Just let me say that when the Famous Beautiful Woman climbed into my Jeep and went to fasten her seatbelt, I knew that the time had come for me to back out of my parking space.

The Overwhelming Experience That Made Me Realize I'm Not Like Other Girls

Kristine Gasbarre | Posted 06.14.2013 | Weddings
Kristine Gasbarre

Nothing could make me feel closer to you than a wedding day that's easy -- and all ours. There's something very real and permanent about a big day that's actually small, where what's most memorable about the celebration is not the fancy menu or the decor... but the love.

Are You Hiding A Secret? How To Stop Holding Yourself Back

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.21.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

In my work with my clients, I've often wondered why some people jump right in to learning and growing and take off with it, while others seem to keep getting stuck. I've discovered that harboring a shameful secret is one of the reasons.

Maine's Gov. LePage: The Latest Example of GOP Self-Loathing

Pat LaMarche | Posted 03.09.2012 | Politics
Pat LaMarche

He's just one of many Republicans who has risen to power while kicking to the curb those who are just like him.

How To Deal With Personal Guilt And Shame

Walter E. Jacobson, M.D. | Posted 09.04.2011 | Healthy Living
Walter E. Jacobson, M.D.

We all have, deeply embedded in our unconscious mind, a self-loathing part of us that manages to generate guilt and shame -- So what do we do about this?

Individualism Run Amok

Susan Smalley, Ph.D. | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Susan Smalley, Ph.D.

I was surprised to read the other day that in some cultures if you are asked 'how are you?' the answer never begins with the pronoun 'I' but rather with a 'we' as in 'we are fine or not fine'.

Anything for Passion

Carine Fabius | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Carine Fabius

Beginning when I was 21, I endured my fiancé's abuse and cruelty -- and by extension his hot and cold displays of "love" -- for three long years.