We have grown so accustomed to meeting others' standards that we may not know what we want in a relationship. But in learning to love ourselves, we look for partners who will love us in return, and write off those who will bring negativity and judgment into our lives.
Most of us don't really mean to be bullies to ourselves. It's not really something that you consciously and willingly decide to do. You weren't born in a self-sabotaging state, which means that you acquired those habits and behaviors. And if you learn to self-hate, you can learn to self-love.
There are hundreds of little Lupitas across the globe that now believe they can achieve their dreams because of your presence as an astounding role model. This Oscar win is more than just another accolade; it symbolizes a change that women of color have been waiting for.
When you are nicer to yourself, you'll create a more fabulous world for yourself. Treat both you and everyone around you with kindness and respect, and your entire life-perspective will shift to a more joyful place!
I've learned some valuable lessons in my few years on Earth, and amongst those lessons one really echoes; turn pain into purpose! If you have to go through it at least get something out of it. There's a lesson in every struggle.
Every day we have an opportunity to learn a lesson, if we listen closely and see. I am grateful to learn and for these opportunities to make my life better so I can enjoy life, and hope you can take advantage of these little opportunities, too.
Learning to love yourself is foundational for being able to love others. The more you learn to be kind and gentle with yourself, rather than judgmental and rejecting, the more loving you will be with others.
"Ok, Stupid" is an ongoing series of drawn self-portraits inspired by self-representation of women in the digital age and online dating as a young, working-class feminist survivor navigating a surveillance/exhibition culture.
I get asked over and over again how I can possibly face and shine light on such difficult issues as mental illness, abuse, trauma, grief, the criminal justice system and all of the related baggage surrounding these topics.
In all areas of life women often settle for less. I think of this as a low-fat version of love, including self-love, by substituting what we really want for what we think we can get and then trying to pretend we're more satisfied than we are.