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Self Love

The Key to a Successful Relationship: Have One With Yourself First

Eva M. Selhub, M.D. | Posted 02.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Eva M. Selhub, M.D.

In short, you want to get on the path to loving yourself. Do things for yourself that feel good. When you feel good, you radiate goodness. Everyone else wants to be around you and you do not lose yourself in relationships.

These Four F-Bombs Are the Secret to Ultimate Self Love

Shannon Kaiser | Posted 02.04.2014 | Women
Shannon Kaiser

I realized my pattern of staying with people who were emotionally destructive was a mirror to the pain inside my own head. I immediately put myself on a dating detox, along with a health and relationship cleanse. What I really needed was some tender love and self care.

5 Radical Action Steps to Being Beautiful

Denise Jolly | Posted 02.04.2014 | Women
Denise Jolly

Recently, the editors of xoJane informed me that a group of, ahem...people who shall remain nameless, declared it National Fat Shaming Week on Twitter.

Mindfulness in Everyday Life: Compassion and the Art of Having Fun

Donna Rockwell, PsyD | Posted 02.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Donna Rockwell, PsyD

In the same way that an airline attendant will tell passengers in pre-flight instructions to secure their own oxygen mask before assisting others, in life we need to learn how to feel compassion for ourselves first, before we can be happy or contribute to others' happiness.

Lessons From Kayaking: Finding a Way to Be With Fear

Tara Brach | Posted 01.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

The key to being with fear is in contacting what is here now, rather than trying to push it away. Here's a story from the river that helps us understand that. In kayaking, you learn about what is called a keeper hole.

Is Self-Care Selfish?

Mary Pritchard | Posted 01.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Pritchard

If I decided to leave work early to go get a massage, what would you say? She's a slacker? I'm not paying you to get a massage during working hours? If you have time to get a massage, then I need to give you more work to do?

When Gratitude Doesn't Work

An Bourmanne | Posted 01.27.2014 | Healthy Living
An Bourmanne

We wanna be grateful because we read everywhere that being grateful is what it takes to be happy.

When You Get to the Buffet, Don't Put It ALL on Your Plate

Jenny G. Perry | Posted 01.25.2014 | Women
Jenny G. Perry

Often when we feel we have a lot on our plates, it's about pleasing others, making them happy or doing what we are 'supposed to do.' Don't argue with me here. If you have kids, you fall into this pattern by accident and often.

How to Attract Love Into Your Life This Holiday and Beyond

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 01.25.2014 | Women
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

Once this practice of celebration and gratitude becomes a habit, you project an infectious joy for living that will attract the world towards you. You will begin to believe that you are worthy of love bit by bit until it becomes natural.

The Power of Love

Mary Paleologos | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Paleologos

Self-love at its core is self-acceptance of who you are just as you are, the good and not-so-good parts of yourself. It's about self-respect and self-empowerment. It's about self-care and looking after yourself and having compassion for yourself when you are going through a hard time.

Change Your Shoes and Step Into Fearless Conversations!

Kathy Andersen | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathy Andersen

You need to step into your fear in order to step forward! That starts by having fearless conversations that take you far out of your safety zone, but directly into your freedom.

When The Man You Love Asks You To Lose Weight

Akela Stanfield | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Akela Stanfield

I yelled at him and told him he did not love me. Love would not notice the 300 pounds my 5'3" frame carried. Confused, he just stared at me; he knew more than anyone how desperately I wanted and needed to lose weight. He alone knew all my secrets. He heard my disappointments. He hoped for my future.

My Name Is Liddy, and I'm a Type 1 Diabetic

Liddy Huntsman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Liddy Huntsman

For 18 years of my life, I was embarrassed to admit I was a Type 1 diabetic. I was embarrassed to admit I was different from everyone I went to school with. I was embarrassed I had to eat or drink juice in front of peers when the time didn't permit.

3 Ways To Experience Peace Through The Craziness Of Life

Erin Cox | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Erin Cox

The idea of being peaceful often stays a "nice concept" that we don't feel like we can afford, but it sounds lovely. We exclude ourselves from the category of deserving or being able to have a peaceful existence. It just doesn't seem realistic considering all we have to get done.

Nothing to Fear: A Letter to My Closeted 12-Year-Old Self

Mason Hsieh | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Mason Hsieh

"If you could write a letter to your younger self, what would you say in only two words?" One of my mentors asked me this recently, and as she waited patiently for an answer, all I could think about was a letter I'd written in sixth grade to my future self.

Is it Possible to Give Too Much??

Dawn Gluskin | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dawn Gluskin

t's amazing how much more you can give when you're careful not to give too much. It's also pretty remarkable just how much more support you receive once you open yourself up to it and let the universe know you are ready.

Absolute Cooperation With the Inevitable

Tara Brach | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

Aligning with what is here is a way of practicing presence. It allows us to respond to our world with creativity and compassion.

How Journaling Can Help You Heal

M. Shannon Hernandez | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
M. Shannon Hernandez

I despise the saying "time heals all wounds," because honestly, that is only true if you do something with that time. If you remain alone, in a funk, completely unable to function, and have no outlet or resources to turn to for help, then the time spent is not spent healing.

Are We Shaming Ourselves or Loving Ourselves?

David Bedrick | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
David Bedrick

A love-based perspective proceeds as if what people do or feel is an expression of a profound and deep intelligence -- trying to make changes can only occur when this intelligence is discovered and supported.

Dear Fear, I'll Win

Troy Roness | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Troy Roness

I wanted to reflect on the events of the past five years of my life, which masked themselves as "distractions," and send a letter directly to what has kept me from succeeding all along: fear. Fear is one of the biggest obstacles that any of us will ever face.

The Price We Pay When We Want to Be Liked by Everyone

An Bourmanne | Posted 12.22.2013 | Healthy Living
An Bourmanne

Living their dream and abandoning yours is exhausting, unfulfilling and such a pity. You are so much more than you give yourself credit for. There's no need to hide what makes you YOU. We need your one-of-a-kind brilliance.

We've Got to Stop Making Excuses! Here's How

Erin Cox | Posted 12.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Erin Cox

I am adopting my husband's "no excuse" line of thinking. I f*#ked up? Didn't meet a deadline? Didn't meet a goal? I know the reasons, but I need to stop letting them be my excuses.

365 Invocations to Create an Extraordinary Life, Week 8

Carol Simone | Posted 12.21.2013 | Healthy Living
Carol Simone

There is so much beauty all around you. Open up, take a deep breath and let it in! Let every moment be a meditation.

Why Maria Kang Is Not the Problem: Love Yourself Enough to Change

Quentin Vennie | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Quentin Vennie

I don't think this was a premeditated attempt to ridicule women that don't wear a size 2, nor was it an attack on men that lack the presence of washboard abs. This is merely an instance where her motive was misrepresented. Maria Kang is not the "real" problem -- self-acceptance is.

Dating After Divorce: Choosing Badly Isn't Bad Luck

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

I can't even count the number of men and women who get divorced and are remarried almost immediately. A lot then find themselves getting another divorce a few years down the road because they chose badly, out of desperation to be married again, or I should say, "to not be alone."