My ex and I made a pact that neither of us would remarry. I know you're probably thinking that this is ridiculously juvenile and delusional, but it worked for us... until last week when he told me he had proposed to his girlfriend.
Now, standing alone in the middle of this empty floor, I noticed that all of the interesting life seemed to be going on outside of me, outside the windows. It did not begin as a feeling of loneliness, but rather a feeling of solitude.
Zen stories serve as intriguing reminders we can use to keep our feet on the path of a calm heart and an untroubled mind in the hustle of everyday life. It is always easier to remember a story than an idea!
Glorious summer is finally upon us. At last hot sultry days and long buggy nights when the sun doesn't go down until well past Happy Hour. You know what's especially fun to do with all those extra hours of daylight? Flirt.
As adults, we become aware of how our emotional fluctuations impact others, but my toddler doesn't give a care that her moods might stress me out. Her main concern is making it known that she wants her sparkly shoes and not her red ones
The night of my 30th birthday, I fell asleep in my mother's childhood bedroom. The next morning, my grandparents served me Entenmann's crumb cake. It was the first birthday I celebrated without a date in 10 years. I felt whole and at peace.
One aim of meditation is to develop inner strength through attention to practice. Practice is to observe and to take the opportunity to transform knowledge into an experience that helps us in our daily life.
We usually take offense when someone says to us, "Are you out of your mind?" But what if it is actually the coolest thing to say? What if being out of our mind means we aren't disturbed or annoyed by the madness of our mind and are more in touch with our heart and our freedom?
She didn't really know a thing about vipassana (or any form of meditation, for that matter), except the little I'd told her. She had no spiritual practice or exposure of any kind, no idea what she was in for. But it felt right, she said, something she had to do.
Work has taken up residence in our home lives, while there is still a very firm objection to bringing our personal life into work. With work taking such a toll on personal lives, personal problems can't help but show up in the workplace. People are checked out, stressed out and freaked out.
How do you take off the "lack glasses" that are keeping you from the abundance of your own life? Keep the focus on you and practice gratitude. It's not about going into a comparison and being grateful because what you have is better than what the other person has.
The path to the inwardly enriched life is not hidden from the man or woman who longs to walk upon it. The path itself is not so much a series of steps, but rather a growing set of discoveries within those individuals who, as Christ said, "have eyes to see."
For me, the fear of nonperformance, the fear of failure, the fear of not living up to expectations (my own, more than anyone else's) is what I consider to be my biggest in life. I can attribute a lot of my personality traits and obsessive behaviors to this fear.
We always seem to be rushing. Rushing to the office, the store, the train, the post office, the restaurant, the gym, even yoga class... those pockets of time when we're not in an active state of rush seem to be fewer and far between.
When I got divorced, I remember saying to my mother, "This is not where I thought I would be at this stage of my life." I was sad when I said it, and stuck in the disappointment of my failed marriage. Divorce had definitely not been part of my life plan.
Although it has its roots in Hinduism, yoga transcends the limitations of religion; it stands alone. Yoga means union; it is waking up to the beauty both within ourselves and realizing the sacredness of all life.