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Selfishness

Finding Our Way: Making Our Own Sense Out of the Time We Have Left

Martha Nelson | Posted 07.22.2014 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

For what may be the first time in our lives, we can decide how the day goes. The simple question is: Where do we begin?

Is Not Wanting Kids Selfish?

Bret Spears | Posted 07.18.2014 | Parents
Bret Spears

People have had children to secure marriages and to save them, to bolster an identity and belong, to vouchsafe their virility, out of blind Darwinian compulsion and entirely by accident

Why Our Need for Closure Makes Us Selfish

Mark Travis Rivera | Posted 07.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Mark Travis Rivera

The ending of any kind of relationship can be difficult but I am a firm believer that every season ends so that something more beautiful can bloom. View every ending as an opportunity to start over, renewed, with a clean slate.

5 Ways to Deal With a Narcissist

Vanessa Van Edwards | Posted 06.30.2014 | Women
Vanessa Van Edwards

Narcissists can be a pain to deal with because they don't always make good partners or friends. So let's talk about what to do if you have a narcissist in your life.

Is Compassion Children's Most Admirable Quality?

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 06.30.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

We are assured by experts that compassion is hardwired into all human beings because such qualities help us to become functioning members of society. But, if you're like me, you would swear that children are born without an ounce of compassion in them.

When Being Selfish Is A Good Thing

Kait Sawyer | Posted 06.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Kait Sawyer

The reality is that to be truly happy, you need to put "you" first sometimes. If that means being selfish, do so with a smile on your face. Am I saying to ignore others or how they feel, always choose yourself or become completely inconsiderate 100-percent of the time? Absolutely not -- life is about balance.

Yes, Your Child Is Special... Just Like Everyone Else's

Anne Josephson | Posted 06.06.2014 | Parents
Anne Josephson

Loving our children fiercely neither grants us a free pass to act as if we are the only people who adore our children nor does it give us a "get out of jail free" card to abuse teachers, coaches and other parents. Principles like fairness and respect still apply to us, even when we love our children so much we can scarcely see straight.

On the Journey Towards Sincerity

Umar Zulqarnain | Posted 05.27.2014 | Religion
Umar Zulqarnain

While working on our own sincerity, we have to realize that the reality is, we will rarely meet sincere people. We will rarely meet people who will genuinely step out of themselves to attempt to see things from our perspective and act accordingly.

Questions I Would Ask

William B. Bradshaw | Posted 07.24.2014 | Education
William B. Bradshaw

As the school year ends for all levels of education, I want to put forward one final quiz especially for our high school and college students to answer. If you do not know the answer to a question, just move quickly to the next one.

Tax the Rich or Kill the Poor

Paul Steven Stone | Posted 07.15.2014 | Politics
Paul Steven Stone

If you accept one basic premise -- that wealth is finite -- then all the financial, economic and social upheaval in our country starts to make sense. There isn't enough to go around when one sector gets a lock-tight grip on the purse and the purse strings.

What's Great About Kids Today

Colleen Turner | Posted 07.14.2014 | Fifty
Colleen Turner

Bullying behaviors do not last long when a child's peer group appreciates the importance of respecting themselves and others

The One Selfish Thing Each Busy Mom Should Do Now to Have No Regrets Next Year

Kat Bern | Posted 07.12.2014 | Women
Kat Bern

Think of the first step you would have to take for your dream to come true and then do it! Putting your dream on the to-do list will actually ensure that you are not going to forget about it or put it on the back burner.

My Team's Selfishness is Great for Our Clients

Stacy Crinks | Posted 07.07.2014 | Business
Stacy Crinks

I encourage each person on my team to selfishly (openly, honestly) communicate where, when, and on what she'd like to work, so we can together create a work experience that she loves.

7 Mistakes You Can Make When It Comes To Trust

Rory Vaden | Posted 06.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Rory Vaden

Trust isn't developed from the absence of conflict, but from developing a healthy process for resolving it. Show me you have the courage to work through our problems and you'll always have my trust.

Dear Family Whisperer: My Son Is Selfish!

Melinda Blau | Posted 06.24.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Be explicit. When you hold your own "I" in check, help him notice: "Waiting on this line is so annoying. I feel like yelling at the lady behind the counter, but she's doing her best. Besides, I'm not the only one who has to wait."

7 Ways to Care Rather Than Care-Take

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

When we are care-giving rather than care-taking, we do these things willingly because it is loving to ourselves and to the other to do so, and we do not feel the resentment that we often feel when we give ourselves up to care-take.

It Was The Best of Times, The Most Indulgent of Times

Wray Herbert | Posted 06.02.2014 | Science
Wray Herbert

Young Americans have gotten a fair share of criticism in recent decades. For the harshest critics, it's a generation of narcissistic brats. Have they been spoiled by indulgent, overprotective parents, who lavished their kids with unearned praise? Or perhaps it's something else entirely.

To the Person in a Hurry

Rachael Clarke | Posted 05.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Rachael Clarke

I'm sure you were in a hurry. I'm sure you thought you could make it across the busy street. The street covered in morning traffic, in unplowed, powdery snow.

What's Better Than Bringing Home a Gold for Your Country?

Lisa Guest | Posted 04.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Guest

If you just focus on yourself, that's a life. But if you do something that is bigger than you, that has a bigger effect than just you, it's really wha...

The Wisdom of Altruism

Deepak Chopra | Posted 02.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Deepak Chopra

There are increasing signs that selfishness is winning out over altruism in this society. The trend isn't hidden. The backlash over Obamacare comes do...

At Thanksgiving, What's Your Life All About?

Judith Parker Harris | Posted 01.25.2014 | Impact
Judith Parker Harris

It's amazing how the struggle in your life will decrease when you realize life is not about you: It's about everyone in the world. Prejudice and bigotry will decline when sharing space becomes more important than 'my' space.

9 Differences Between Selfish and Selfless Leaders

Charlie Kim | Posted 01.25.2014 | Business
Charlie Kim

Identifying the problem is 50 percent of the solution. Building a deep understanding of how things fail, helps us learn and grow from our mistakes.

Is It Rational to Be Selfish

Denise Cummins, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Impact
Denise Cummins, Ph.D.

The take-home message from this body of research is this: What counts as a fair transaction depends in large part on perceived relative social status -- where the parties stand in their perceived hierarchy and how they believe they got there.

Does Studying Economics Breed Greed?

Adam Grant | Posted 12.22.2013 | Business
Adam Grant

To figure out whether economics education can shift people in the selfish direction, we need to track beliefs and behaviors over time -- or randomly assign them to economics exposure. Here's what the evidence shows.

Collapse Your Favorite Duality

Pavel Somov, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Pavel Somov, Ph.D.

How do people get better (existentially healthier)? That is the question that I ask myself a lot. In the course of my clinical work as a psychologist I keep looking for formulas and models and recipes of wellbeing, for ways and pathways and roads to psychological sovereignty.