Our question is, in this year -- and the upcoming ones of this decade -- do we need to be more selfie or more selfless? Given the current trends and problems domestically and internationally, it seems to us that "selfless" should be the clear winner.
How do people get better (existentially healthier)? That is the question that I ask myself a lot. In the course of my clinical work as a psychologist I keep looking for formulas and models and recipes of wellbeing, for ways and pathways and roads to psychological sovereignty.
Worship is really about casting oneself out of oneself in recognition of what is greater, more wonderful, awe-ful than us, and in the face of which our selves simultaneously disintegrate and are healed. What a relief, frankly, to shed the preoccupations of my life.
The benefits of comprehending what an unconditional love means and implementing it in our everyday life seems to be significant, not only to us but also to whomever and whatever we interact with. So let's start the process and see it for yourself.
I am sharing this brief story with you as encouragement that we all have a good samaritan somewhere deep within us. It is easy to get lost in our own problems, but we have opportunities every day to reach out to people struggling all around us.
Intelligence and concern for others often go hand in hand. This doesn't mean it's wise to give away the farm. The key is to use our brainpower to make sure that our contributions to others don't come at the expense of our own interests.
As Mother's Day approaches, I am humbled by these lessons of partnership, as well as those of parenthood -- the privilege of birthing your best teacher, seeing your clearest mirror, and walking beside your greatest reminder for a lifetime.
The "it's all about me" zeitgeist of pop culture clearly interferes with the development of both selflessness and empathy. Whether reality TV, hip-hop music, or violent movies or video games, pop culture's messages elevate the self above others.
I was privileged and honored to deliver the keynote address recently at a local high school graduation. My marching orders were to deliver a generally inspiring exhortation on being selfless and giving back in seven minutes or less.