For the last few days, a copy of Spreadsheet Guy's chronicle of sexual rebuff has been circulating. What I see in this image is not a man who feels his wife "owes" him sexual favors, but a man making a desperate cry for help.
With Valentine's Day soon approaching comes the question, what is the fix to a languishing libido? In contrast to the myriad of over two dozen approved medical treatments for sexual dysfunction in men, not one medical treatment has been approved for use in women.
Desire ebbs and flows, both throughout an individual's life and throughout the context of an individual relationship. So, I think it is useful to come up with strategies to minimize the impact this may have.
In practice, sexual orientation poses only one question, and it is both dull and blunt: What is the gender of the people whom you are sexually attracted to and with whom you want to have intimate relationships? This is my problem.
Although it appears that we may be more physically primed for sexual pleasures when young, there is great scope for a sexual renaissance. Sexual prime, then, is the result of "sexiness." And that, can peak at any age.
Desire is not the enemy to a happy and balanced life. It is not a roadblock to experiencing a higher self. In fact, desire can often be the driver for all that greater awareness and consciousness we so often seek.
Women's sexual desire (and men's, too) is far from simple -- it is more like a complicated puzzle, the pieces of which the pieces we are still trying to put together. Having pervasive sex-negative myths isn't helping anyone.
This is the first movie since It's Complicated that portrays sexual relationships in folks past 40. It bravely tackles the complex issues of sexual desire and intimacy in "seniors," however we may define that term.
It's no longer true that men cheat far more often than women do. A study conducted last year by researchers at Indiana University in Bloomington found that women and men cheat at about the same rate -- though for different reasons.