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Sexual Orientation

Beyond Either/Or: How I Am Bisexual Everywhere & All the Time

Rev. Dr. Janet Edwards | Posted 02.27.2014 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Janet Edwards

It took me a long time to grasp this complexity, and I am still discovering what it means for me. I am grateful for those who help me know I dwell in a place of both/and, not either/or, where I can appreciate the wholeness of God and every human being.

A Tale of Two Uncles: Teaching My Kids About Sexual Orientation

Stephanie Sprenger | Posted 04.06.2014 | Parents
Stephanie Sprenger

What's the statute of limitations on bringing up questions that should have, theoretically, been answered years earlier?

Are 'Heteroflexible' and 'Homoflexible' Shades of 'Bisexual'?

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 03.09.2014 | Gay Voices
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

Labels work great when you're writing a book, giving a presentation or explaining to others who you are. But the truth is that these labels are limiting and only box people in, restricting what they are and can become.

Coming Out for Marriage Equality in Japan

John Lewis | Posted 02.10.2014 | Gay Voices
John Lewis

Coming out appears to be particularly difficult for many Japanese LGBT people because of the importance of social conformity in Japan. Many college students told us that they had known perhaps only one openly LGBT person in their entire lives.

I Appreciate Your Insistence, but No, I'm Not Gay

Eric Barry | Posted 02.02.2014 | Comedy
Eric Barry

These days jokes about my sexuality hardly bother me, but the ownership that many women feel they have over it most certainly does. Let's dish! (I'm thinking my new catchphrase will really help reinforce my masculinity.)

Sunday School Taught Me That Jesus Was Straight... And Other Myths and Legends of Yore

Brett Webb-Mitchell | Posted 01.23.2014 | Religion
Brett Webb-Mitchell

There was never any discussion about the married status of these biblical people. It was simply assumed that they were all straight, just like my family: a mom and dad, children, grandparents, aunts and uncles.

Science vs. Prejudice in Hawai'i Marriage Equality Debate (VIDEO)

Dean Hamer and Joe Wilson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dean Hamer and Joe Wilson

During the acrimonious debate over marriage equality in Hawai'i over the past week, the question of whether being gay is a choice or immutable has played a key role. I did not originally plan to testify about my many years of scientific research on this topic, but I changed my mind.

To Be or Not to Be Gay

Danielle Ariano | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Danielle Ariano

About a year and a half after I came out as a lesbian, I moved to Miami, where I fell in love for the first time, which would have been wonderful if not for the fact that the person I fell in love with was a man. How does a gay woman fall in love with a man?

Label Mayhem: The Problem With a Binary System of Sexuality in a Society That's Changing Its Views on Love

Bekki Charbonneau | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Bekki Charbonneau

I am a queer woman. I flip-flop between identities. I have been "straight," then "bisexual," then "pansexual," then a weeping puddle in the middle of the floor (which has occurred frequently enough to be considered an identity, in my opinion). But I have figured out a few things (probably).

How Much Sex Is Healthy?

Robert Weiss | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Robert Weiss

As a sexual addiction and intimacy disorders specialist, I am often asked about the frequency of sex. Couples want to know what is "healthy." Usually, they're afraid they're either having way too much sex or not nearly enough.

Wondrous Confusion: How Gender Shimmers in the Fluidity of Being Bi

Rev. Dr. Janet Edwards | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Rev. Dr. Janet Edwards

I find that the fluidity of my experience of gender -- female but with traditionally masculine dimensions -- contributes to my sense of whom I could love. When I began to grasp this gender fluidity in myself, I also gained a clearer, richer grasp of my bisexuality. Confused? Welcome!

Anatomy of a Smear: The Religious Right vs. the American Psychiatric Association

James Peron | Posted 01.23.2014 | Politics
James Peron

People tend to assume claims are true if they confirm something they already believe -- and the more fervent the belief, the easier they are to convince.

The Fundamentals of Transphobia

Dana Beyer | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Dana Beyer

The opposition is very confused about the differences between sex and gender, gender identity and sexual orientation. But the problem is more fundamental: Most Americans do not have a basic understanding of human biology and reflexively equate "biology" and "sex" with genitals.

Valuing Diversity: The Pathway to Inclusion

Sojourner Marable Grimmett | Posted 12.30.2013 | Black Voices
Sojourner Marable Grimmett

I quickly checked myself before showing that I was alarmed by her reaction, and continued to smile. I imagined that I was the first black person that she had ever seen, and wanted my encounter with her to be a positive one.

We Need a New Orientation to Sex

Cory Silverberg | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Cory Silverberg

In practice, sexual orientation poses only one question, and it is both dull and blunt: What is the gender of the people whom you are sexually attracted to and with whom you want to have intimate relationships? This is my problem.

I'm Transgender-Masculine, a Lover of Men, and Living in Accordance With My Biblical Faith

H. Adam Ackley, Ph.D. | Posted 11.27.2013 | Gay Voices
H. Adam Ackley, Ph.D.

As a person who has characteristics of both of the conventional binary genders, I cannot help but embrace the creation account not as a principle that exclusively upholds heterosexuality but as an affirmation of the importance and blessedness of human partnership.

LGBT: What Does It Really Mean?

Stephanie Mott | Posted 11.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Stephanie Mott

LGBT. These letters stand for "lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender." They also stand for "love, grace, beauty, and truth." The challenges of, and the solutions to, creating a different world are intertwined in these two representations of these four letters.

WATCH: Iyanla's Advice For Father Struggling To Accept Gay Son

OWN | Posted 08.27.2013 | OWN

Parents Traci and Andre called life coach Iyanla Vanzant for help because they feel their two children -- 24-year-old Jovan and 20-year-old Jazmin -- ...

Labled From the Outside, Finding an Identity on the Inside

Katy Butler | Posted 10.13.2013 | Gay Voices
Katy Butler

When I recently started falling for a guy, it shattered my world. I had always liked girls. I was a lesbian. But I knew that the feelings I had for this man were real when I felt my heart leap every time I walked into class and saw him. I had felt the same way about women in the past.

Brown Girl Passing for a White Guy

Rolla Selbak | Posted 10.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Rolla Selbak

Let me be clear. I do not look like a guy. At all. No one would ever mistake me for one on the street. But somehow, I find myself the only female in a room full of guys, talking about women as if I'm not there.

We Are Not All Trayvon Martin

Susan Henking | Posted 10.06.2013 | Chicago
Susan Henking

I am gratified that this is a time in this country when a young white woman can express public outrage at the killing of a young black man. And yet, we are most definitely not all Trayvon Martin.

Let Low-Risk Gay Men Give Blood

Dov Fox | Posted 10.01.2013 | Politics
Dov Fox

The FDA's selective ban on giving blood imparts the disparaging idea that any gay man -- even if he practices safe sex within a monogamous relationship -- should be treated as if he has a disease that remains sadly bound up with perceptions of promiscuity, drug use, shunning, and shame.

The End Goal of the LGBT Movement

George Weinberg | Posted 09.08.2013 | Gay Voices
George Weinberg

Let me suggest an answer that would have been unimaginable 50 years ago: Think about a society that views being gay as we now view being left-handed. The goal is for homosexuality to lose all its negative connotations, to become worth mentioning only in special, neutral contexts.

'Who Would Choose Such a Difficult Life If They Were Normal?'

Cindy Zelman | Posted 09.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Cindy Zelman

At 18, I stuffed my natural attraction to women down into my soul and chose to date men, all because a shrink had said that anyone who was homosexual couldn't possibly be normal, because who would "choose" such a difficult life?

Sex, Gender and the Greater Truth Forgotten in the Marriage Equality Debate

Larry Womack | Posted 08.25.2013 | Gay Voices
Larry Womack

We're born with biological sexes that may or may not be male or female, gender identities that may or may not align with them and sexual orientations that are all over the place. How have we come this far in the marriage debate without asking how such suspect delineations could matter?