Unless you must for your own safety, don't change. I don't know a lot about a lot, but I guarantee you that God is more than OK with you being the entirety of the person you are -- which is to say the entirety of the person God created you to be
Think of the times we say things we regret about other women. Who are we saying these things to? In what context do these feelings arise? And most importantly, what are the underlying feelings driving the negative comment?