Paradoxically strong self-esteem also enables us stay open to hearing others' differing views, I believe. This path towards a positive and resilient outlook begins with giving oneself the permission to feel.
Dear One and Only Body: I am so sorry I have been ignoring you and your needs for longer than I care to remember. No more diets, gimmicks, deprivation and the like. I will make taking care of you a lifestyle that we both love and enjoy.
Simplicity, solitude, and silence are common themes to the explorers of life's questions and the discoverers of life's answers. Our willingness to settle into some days of simplicity, living without plans, just being, opens a path.
Simplicity is purity. It is facing the true nature of things and embracing it instead of ducking and weaving and dodging, instead of filling a hole inside you with chaotic activity or an overabundance of stuff.
One of my key realizations about happiness, and a point oddly under-emphasized by positive psychologists, given its emphasis in popular culture, is that outer order contributes to inner calm. More than it should.
It's not always easy or fun to change things, but when you do it frees you. These days what I want is smaller and less. I want more time to do what I enjoy and to be with those I care about. That's what makes me happy.