She's not as confusing as some of the women I've dated; I understand her; I get her and she gets me. We grew up together, in a sense, and now I see a young, independent, beautiful and risk-taking female version of me. (This version looks much better than the original, by the way.)
I'm no expert with online dating, and I'm not in a rush to get into a relationship, but let me share with you what has worked for me. It's helped me get rid of the junk. And speaking of junk, men, quit it. You're the only one that thinks it looks fabulous.
I am a divorced mom and he suggested I try dating some single dads. I shifted through countless single dad profiles and had a hard time clicking "like" on any of them. I realized that men, who are new to the online market, need a little direction in the new age of online dating.
Being a dad is not always easy, and the life balance of being a single parent teeter-totters between my children's happiness and my own. I've heard parents say, "As long as my children are happy then I am happy." That is false. In order for my children to be happy, I must be happy first.
When your children are in your custody, one-on-one, you have the opportunity to instill the values that are most important to you. For me it's integrity. I got to share what it is and what it feels like to be on the giving and receiving end of keeping your word.
I need to find similar families, make new connections and start tackling the hard question that will be coming from a very young, inquisitive boy. In essence, "come out" again -- this time, for my son.
Inspired by the true life events of today's single moms, the following is designed to be a guide, not a rule book, for those mamas re-entering the dating pool with both bruised hearts and jelly stains on their LBDs. Together we stand.
Being a single parent, particularly a single mother, and identifying yourself as such, means constantly being open to criticism, not only from other parents, but also from politicians, family members and even strangers.
I guess I was. And I see now how much better behaved my kids are now that they have that better, more chilled-out mom. More polite language. Better listening and chore-doing. Fewer meltdowns -- and quicker apologies in the event of a spaz-out.
I can honestly say that being a single dad doesn't seem like any big picnic. So, I want to validate single dads and tell them how much the single mom really appreciates them, whether she admits it or not.