I am a divorced mom and he suggested I try dating some single dads. I shifted through countless single dad profiles and had a hard time clicking "like" on any of them. I realized that men, who are new to the online market, need a little direction in the new age of online dating.
I began to feel I had slipped so low that I was no longer respected. I lost self confidence. I stopped talking about my writing. Soon nobody knew that I was a writer or that I'd ever gone to college. Nobody knew me. I became invisible.
In attempting to protect them from failure, we have eliminated opportunities for them to develop a healthy sense of self -- one cultivated through trial and error, hard work and by making a contribution to the communities of their family, friends and school.
Single moms have the opportunity to date for a variety of reasons. One is in the hopes of finding a better match the second (or more) time around. No doubt. But another, equally as valid a reason, is for a little ego boosting, physically satisfying sex-candy on the side.
If you've ever been through a divorce or bad breakup involving kids, you're way ahead in this situation, but if not, and you're like most people, you won't have the first clue what to say ("I'm sorry?" "Congratulations?").